What is love?

Question

what is love
how do u know that you are in it
how do you know its not lust

Answer 1

m8 love is undiscribable!! u noe u r in it cause ur heart always keeps beating wen u with the person you love. And once shes gone................ ur heart starts aching!! u noe its not lust cause u have a special feeling for her! Lust only make u hard unlike love!!

Answer 2

Love is a many splender of things. Love is an action word. It shows. When someone says that they love you they will show you. Similiar to the way in which loving parents/guardians take care of their families. Just because a person conceives a child doesn't necessarily mean that that person(s) will give the child all of the necessary nutrients to grow mentally and physically healthy at best. This is one of the very reasons why we have centers and agencies for neglect and abuse situations. You don't destroy, nor carelessly treat the people or the things you love. And, love in its most infinit way should be recepicated, but not all of the time in many cases is it. Again, even in situtations where someone is not loving you, you must find ways to love them, even if at a distance.

Lust on the other hand is strong desire. Desire for indulgence of sex; excessive sexual desire. Lustful is full of lust or desire; sensual; lewd. I can sort of see how the two have been and continue to be a wonder for many. One can lust after many things, such as money and worldly possessions. This example may fall under lustful.

Before you calm the "love" thing ask yourself a few questions below:

What is it about this person that captures my interest? Don't make anything up. No illusions, just straight dope on what has your attention about this person? If its because they are cute, or the way in which that curl dingles in the front of their forehead, or they way his pants hangs around his ankles, or anything near something like that, then it just may not be love.

How might this person at this time complete, and, or compliment me? In other words, what does this person have that I don't. Or, have that I haven't fully developed? Usually we are attracted to people who interest us for one reason or another. May be this person is more interactive and more of an extrovert, while you are not so interactive and very much an introvert. Well, the interactive and extroverted partner becomes an asset to the relationship. They may bring a certain balance into the relationship. when a person is unsure what themselves, or another person is worth to them in their life, then a question of love or lust should be evaluated.

Lastly, if all a person wants to do is get physically into anothers underpants this could be a huge indicator to question the interest of both parties love interest.

There are some great books written recently on this subject to help identify if you or someone your seriously dating is on the love or lust level. One book is He's just not that into You. The other is about relationships that are no longer a relationship and is titled "It's Broke because it's Broken. They are very cleverly written by the same authors. I hope you indulge yourself with them. They are even great books to share.

I hope there were not too many mispelled words. Spellcheck is not working at this time.

Hope that had a little light...

Answer 3

You know it isn't lust if you have intimate relations that aren't so hot, and you stick around because that person makes you feel good about being alive. Some people never know they are in love, until it is too late because they are searching for love. Sometimes love is staring you in the face, and it has nothing to do with beauty or perfection or great sex, but a companionship.

Answer 4

Love is the Love of God and nothing else . Lust is love the Body and nothing else

Answer 5

love is the passion you feal for someone weather it is for a family member, or some one that you know. Love is compassion and the reason to live, love is life. And when you r in love, you will do practly anything to make that person happy. and if you feal you r supposed to like them but you have this feeling of guilt, it isn't really love it is just fake. All so if you only like someone for there body features it isn't love either. It is just that you are fixated on what doesn't matter instead of what does. Personality and actions.

Answer 6

It is a highly refined and rarefied thought which brings with it tenderness.It makes you obsessed.The object of love draws your attention, and you remain impregnated with the thought.If it wanes after the physical congress, then it is lust.

Answer 7

Think about couples you know whose relationships you admire/you believe are in love -- does it feel/look like that? That was the original tip off for me that I was not in love with my partner, we did not treat each other as the most important thing in the world as my truly in-love friends did. Also, can you imagine life without your lover? That is a clue as well.

Don't take my advice though since I've messed this up for myself. But you know what they say; those who can't, teach.

Answer 8

You will know, it won't be just about sleeping with the person it will be about a lot of things, like hearing their voice , smiling when you think about them, missing their company and so much more. You will know when you feel it. There is an emptiness when they are not around, and a feeling of completeness when they are.

Answer 9

love or affection ++++
Sex -+++
Sadism --++
aggression or attack, anger, ---+
defense, fear, anxiety ----

The '-' is need for a negation against resistance. In love there is no anticipated resistance, because other possibilites are given second place in the purpose, the purpose being the perception of love in the other. Love is its own knowledge, while sex is an organ of the body.

Answer 10

u will get the feeling when ur in it You'll just have feelings in your heart. I know what love means but i just can't explain it SORRY! can't help that much