my ex and i split up a little while ago. i did some bad things and she cheated a few times during our relationship......we have two children together. i'm over her for the most part and i'm currently seeing some one. been seeing her for around two weeks now. today my ex calls and says she'd like to try to make it work out between us as she can see the change in me. but, because she's cheated on me six times......i believe i'd have a trust issue with her. and this girl i'm seeing now is a real sweet heart. i'm confused on what to do. any one been in this situation? if so please some good advice! five hard earned points!!! lol but, please help! thanks everyone and merry christmas!!!!
2006-12-11 13:09:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you moved on for as reason. for sanity. good for you and congrats on the sweetheart. 6 x a person cheats has a sex addiction and isnt really really happy. unless you two go to counseling and time for healing it isn't wise to go back. trust takes time. but she seems like she has a probl3m.she is comfortable with the old and knows what she can get away with when she is with you. I would feel highly insulted.
2006-12-11 13:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your ex need to think about the most important people here-your children! I am sure you two got into some real yelling matches over your ex cheating 6 times, and what ever you brought into the relationship that wasn't healthy! (You Mentioned) Bottom line is the children are seeing and hearing all this from the two people who should be setting an example for them! You and your ex!!! They didn't ask to be born, so why keep putting them through
hell on earth? Children are like a sponge, you need to show, and treat them with love, respect, and positive aspects of life. LIKE TRUST too.. Do everyone a favor, especially your children, and give them a Merry Christmas, they deserve it!!
2006-12-11 13:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the big word trust, if she cheated on you six times,dont think she wont do it again, to me once a cheater always a cheater. If you found someone else keep her don't let her get away . just tell your ex that you are there for the children, and include you new girlfriend so she won't feel left out. good luck.
2006-12-11 13:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six times tells me that she needs attention from others not just you. Six times tells me that she will do it again. Misery awaits you if you consider going back to her. I am sorry but that seems to be.
I am sorry to hear that you have children together that are affected by this. You need to move on and find someone stable. You will be happier and who knows you might be able to provide that stable home for your two children with that other person.
2006-12-11 13:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by easternvesper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really don't need to think about that 1, you said u are almost over your ex but she wants to try it again and u have a sweet girl right now, why break her heart when she has done nothing wrong to you. stay with this girl
2006-12-11 13:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never be happy if the trust is gone. She see's changes in you, do you see them in her? Six times-no way. Be happy and Merry Christmas to you my friend.
2006-12-11 13:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elaine plays the fife and the children follow! Now that's the life! Great rhythm to these words of pondering, I now will be a pondering! In proper editor English: you done good!
2016-05-23 07:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still have feelings for your ex? If not, it doesn't really matter if she wants to get back together because she "can see the change" in you. (What about changes in HER, since she also cheated on you?)
2006-12-11 13:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you're over her for the most part, she cheated 6 times that you know of. Forget it, why go back to misery?
2006-12-11 13:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would schedule an appointment with a counselor for the two of you. Niether of you seem really ready to make a marriage work. She needs to get her lose caboose under control.
2006-12-11 13:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋