What would you do in my situation?

Question

I'm in high school (freshman) and I don't have any friends. The people at my school are REALLY cruel. When my class was watching a really sad movie, almost the whole class laughed at what was supposed to be sad and touching. People always use the words, "loser" and "gay" in my school. During lunch, ALL the seats are taken, seriously. There's hardly any clubs, and the ones they have are all academic (give you bundles of homework) and athletic (I'm a bad athlete). Everyday during lunch I go to the library and sit alone doing homework. All this amount of shock, depression, and fear affects my studies. What would you do if you were me?

Answer 1

i know how you feel i had to start a new schoo 2 week before it let out so what couple friends i made where gone by the end of the summer.so i had to start the next year with no friends all over again. what you need to do is just try talking to people i know what you mean the kids at my school will kill you for even look at them wrong well i hope i helped you a little good luck

Answer 2

Dear Lost,
It may not be what you want to hear,but please realize that as bad as it seems this is a very temporary situation. Most of us have been through similar experiences at school. Especially the freshman year - it's so hard. And kids can be terribly cruel. But you can't let them know how upset you are because they'll just be even more unkind. Eventually, they'll grow up, get a few knocks and stop being so selfish but it may not happen until after high school. Try to make one good friend and hang out with them. Base your friendship on mutual interests rather than on how popular the person is. It will make your life and theirs much easier. Best of luck and you'll be in my prayers.

Answer 3

Aw. It's like a mirror of what I'm going through.
I found that clubs worked the best for me. Just try any one that intrests you slightly, even if you're bad at it.
Don't limit yourself to your own grade. Anyone with anything in common at all can turn out to be your friend.
At lunch, just sit with the odd kids. If your school is like mine, they're the nicest. They'll have a place for you. Any seat at all. No matter where. And bring work to lunch. That way when you need help, you can strike up a conversation and maybe make a friend that way. Don't give up. Life is hard.
If you're not shy, just wear something nuts once to get people to talk to you. Invader Zim earings? Or a funny t-shirt.
Don't worry, you'll make a friend. Or at least someone who knows your name. That's better than nothing!
Oh, and just ignore the language. You don't have to say what they say. Or do.

*Tears up* This is helping me too. Thank you for posting it.

Answer 4

Well, when I was in that situation (and it sucks!) is sat by myself a lot and tried to outwait it. Looking back, I think I would try to find some sort of friends outside of high school. I would try to find some people who liked doing the kinds of things I did and hang out with them. You know, life is way better after you get out of a high school like this. I looked up to see how some of the people who I went to school with are doing now and they are the same bunch of mean people. Some people do grow out of it, though. Just find what you love to do and if you find some friends at school, that's great, but if you don't, there are a lot of other people in the world. Have you tried music? Or maybe cars? I don't know, whatever you like. You could also talk to the school or another counselor to give you a boost through this. Sometimes it just helps to have someone listen to you and tell you you're going to be O.K. Just know that it does get better.

Answer 5

options (1) first try to see is there others schools in the area. if there no other place to go you have to deal with it and learn to cope with it.
You can tried to create your own club, something that you like and you are good at.It could be Music, Chess, Meditation, or get into politics
and change the school rules and laws that the parent of that child that is creating abuse to other should be penalize monetary. Create a law that Bullies or abusers student should be sued for trauma that they have done to others ( creating depression to others by mental abuse). Try to get others that feel the same way you do . You have to look at life positive and without violence. Is important to Love know yourself.

Answer 6

Do not worry about the in crowd. Identify yourself with what you like. Today so many are trying to be tough and really inside or not in front of anyone they are wanting and missing probably things like you. There are activities outside of school that you can participate in and gain friends such as a youth center etc. All you have to do is seek things out

Answer 7

Walk in there tomorrow with your books under your arm and your chin held high; shock them with your new self-confidence; they don't know it's a sham; but as you continue playing the game (when you smile people always wonder what the hell you're so happy about), it will turn into reality. You'll actually start having confidence. You're a good student and a sensitive young man. Focus on those things. KNOW that you are special and soon someone else (who isn't your mom) will realise it to!

Answer 8

Hmm.. what a bad situation at school..
If I were you, I would try to more relax.. If they're laughing at the wrong time try to make a joke with them but not too often. do not feel too serious when you are with them. just making a friend with them. But, if you really can't stand with all the situation it would be bad for your mental so just move out from that school.. find another recommended school.. dont waste your time in there!

Answer 9

out of all the people in all of your classes find one person that you try to smile at and say hellow and try to strike up a small conversation
sounds like you are very shy and it may be difficult for you to make friends with
im sure there is one person in one of your classes that you can connect with.
open your eyes look around when you are shy this can be hard but try it
i know because im shy to
good luck

Answer 10

BELIEVE IT OR NOT.. IM SURE THERE OTHER PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT MIGHT FEEL JUST THE SAME AS YOU. TRY GETTING INTO ANY LITTLE CLUB. EVEN IF YOU MIGHT NOT LIKE IT THAT MUCH. THAT WILL HELP YOU TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE. TRY TO MAKE SMALL CONVERSATIONS WITH PEOPLE IN YOUR SCHOOL.. TRY GIRLS FIRST. GUYS CAN BE MEAN SOMETIMES. JUST DO SMALL TALK.... LIKE AS SOMETHING ABOUT THE HOMEWORK.. OR HOW TO WORK OUT A PROBLEM.
GOODLUCK! :)