Ladies I need your help?

Question

I just pissed off my wife once again and need some suggestions on how to make up because i have run out of ideas already used the obvious enough times (flowers,candy,saying sorry a million times)so please be creative

Answer 1

"once again" is the problem. Everyone makes mistakes, but a guy who isn't making an effort to do the right thing, obviously doesn't mean it when he says he's sorry. If you were really sorry, you would stop doing things that you know hurt your wife.

Look deep into your heart and and look for the truth about yourself. When you are serious about changing, talk it over with her.... apologize one last time.... and don't hurt her again.

Best Wishes,

Sue

Answer 2

The word again struck me in you question. Maybe you need to sit down and speak with her at length. Tell her that you don't mean to upset her and that you are sorry that she is upset. Tell her how much you love her and then ask how you can communicate better.

Let her tell you why she is feeling the way she is but do not get defensive - just listen. When she is done talking ask her for the solution or suggestion that might help you not to upset one another. Then give her a hug and kiss.

"Again" means that things are going to start to build up. You need to start a line of communication so that things don't build up to a point where you are always upsetting one another.

Candy and flowers are a gloss over. You need to make a permanent solution and a path of communication for the both of you.

Answer 3

The holidays can be a stressful time for everyone, and sometimes the littlest thing can set you off (just ask my boyfriend!). She may be taking things out on you that are bothering her in other aspects of her life as well, and unintentionally using you as a "beating post". If at all possible, offer to take her on a "de-stressing" weekend getaway when the holidays are through, or plan something special for New Year's. Maybe you could book a trip or make reservations online, then print out the itinerary and wrap it in a really big box to surprise her. Some alone time for the two of you may be a good way for her to rid herself of some of this Christmastime tension us women get, and will give her something to look forward to throughout the holiday season. Good luck!

Answer 4

is your wife a little materialistic(sorry for saying that but some people really are, like me) but even if she isn't and chocolates and flowers and saying sorry a million times does not really work, it is time to use the secret weapon!~ LOL When was the last time you bought her a ring? I'm not talking about fashion jewelry, I'm talking about Tiffany's... Maybe she is missing that... Spend A LOT for her.. you know, only sometimes.. When nothing else really works.

Answer 5

Here's something creative - stop p*ssing her off!

You know - sit down and talk to her and say look there's a pattern here. I am either doing things wrong I don't know about or the rules are changing or I am an insensitive a$shole. But I am not *trying* to p*ss you off and I want to fix it.

Let's think of 2 or 3 things I can do to lessen the number of times a day I p*ss you off.

Take a logical problem solving approach to it and see if things don't get better.

Answer 6

Just an odd thought, but, is her being upset with you always justified?
If not she may be continuing to be angry since she knows you will wimp out and crawl back with flowers and the like.
Unless you are some kind of major jerk and she is usually correct in her anger quit rewarding her all the time for being pissed off.

Answer 7

Guys never seem to get it!!!! When you married her you chose to love her the rest of your life, Now for the tip treat her as you would like to be treated. Make this a life long commitmint a once off gift for me never worked at all. A woman was made to give suck to her young and she cannot do so without recieving, her boobs dry up - don't you know this? Give love and attention to a woman and she will go to the ends of the earth to make you happy and content, I promise you. Not a once off gift like kiss and make up!!! Put 100% ointo your marraige, don't continually critisize her find truthful compliment to give her, don['t talk negatively behind her back, these are things you speak over your own life, they will come back to you full circle, etc... All the Best

Answer 8

"I'm sorry" means very little after you say it a million times. In fact, anything you've already repeatedly done to make up with her probably doesn't mean much, or you wouldn't be asking this question.

My guess is that your wife doesn't want you to "make up" with her; she wants you to stop messing up. You can start by making a promise to change, but that too will mean nothing unless you actually do change.

Sorry, there are just no quick fixes to this one. Good luck.

Answer 9

Is there any way you can prove to her that you are finally "learning" something from these little upsets? Wives just want to know husbands are sincere and can be totally trusted. The same thing husbands want actually! So, why do you keep pissing her off??? Your actions are so important to her!! Words alone get old, FAST!!!!!!! I hope these words of wisdom have helped you think of something more sincere, instead of desperate!! Good luck!!

Answer 10

Make a sign that says "--You're all I want and more than I deserve" and hang the sign in town. So no one knows it's an im sorry sign so no one knows that you guys are fighting. It just looks like you are professing your love for her. Then, take her to it, and show her. Then when she sees it, go to random people and say "Excuse me, I want to let the whole world know how much I love this woman starting with you." Dedication is the key here. If she sees how dedicated you are to making it up to her AND not screw up in the future, she'll soften up. This plan is SURE TO WORK.