Alright so finals are coming up for my school so some people threw like this huge end of semester party and I went without my girlfriend(she's on a college visit or something) and I was drinking a lot and hanging with my friends, whatever. My first mistake was the drinking a lot part because I'm a completely wild drunk and I go crazy basically. So anyway there this really hot girl from Russia who's an exchange student this year and I think shes hot and whatever but I love my girlfriend ya know. well, one thing led to another and I ended up pretty much hooking up with the other chick and only a few people who were at the party know and they are my close friends and one of my girlfriends sisters. So, I don't know what to do cause the hookup meant nothing to me but my girl won't see it that way and she'll probably end things and I just really screwed myself largely this time so anyone who can help or call me a dumbass is welcome.
2006-12-11 13:05:55 · 11 answers · asked by SmashJ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You're a dumbass :-p
Sorry I just had to say that. Hope things work out. Personally I can't forgive people like that, I might forgive but can't forgive so if I were your girl friend I would end it. But I hope your girl friend is a better person than me. Hope it works out for you. ^^
2006-12-11 13:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sui Generis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow tough situation. I think that the best thing you can do is be upfront with your girlfriend. At least by telling her you may get some of your dignity back and in time she will appreciate that you told her.
As for yourself, how will you be without her? Do you think she will give you a second chance? Are you likely to ever do this again? These are all things to contemplate.
I wouldn't call you a dumbass - we all make mistakes. This one may take a little longer to sort out or may have bigger repercussions. I'm not sure how it is going to go as I don't know you're girlfriend. I just hope you can tell her the truth, she appreciates that you told her the truth and that things will work out - even if it means only remaining friends.
Meanwhile where is that Russian girl - I'd like to have a word with her hehe. How dare she rope you in hehe.
2006-12-11 21:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes..sorry to say, I believe you have screwed yourself. Knowing how you get while drinking, and doing it anyway....not good. Then acting on those impulses....worse.
You do need to sit down with your g/f and tell her what happened....asap..before anyone else can tell her. Just because YOUR friends know...some might not agree with what you have done and spill the beans....even if THEY don't.....HER SISTER will. At least show her the respect of being the one to tell her....You never can tell....there are people who are forgiving, and believe in second chances. Good luck hun.
2006-12-11 22:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you're a dumbass.
I don't think I could ever forgive my fiancee if she cheated on me, even if she were drunk. Getting drunk and stupid is no excuse.
If I were in your shoes, I'd tell your girlfriend before anyone else has a chance to. It'll hurt her even more to hear it from someone else (and she undoubtedely will). You've got to 'fess up and live with the consequences.
2006-12-11 21:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by lillielil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to your girlfriend to be honest with her. She's going to find out one way or another ("Three may keep a secret if two of them are dead"), and it's best that she hear it from you, even if it means you might lose her. I wish you luck.
Whatever happens, it would be a shame if you learned nothing from this experience.
2006-12-11 21:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is another reason for why people shouldn't drink. You can try to explain to your girlfriend what happened but like you said, you are screwed.
2006-12-11 21:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship isn't based on honest communication then what is it based on?
Of course you have to tell her. If she dumps you can you honestly say you don't deserve it?
If she doesn't dump you, work your butt off to earn her trust again...and know that it may not be easy for her to believe in you again.
2006-12-12 10:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell her. If you're completely satisfied in your relationship and you love her, then why should you tell her something that will only hurt her? But you're still a dumbass =). If she finds out about it then you're screwed.
2006-12-11 21:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yuo need to tell your girlfriend what happened and she will most likely undersrand and if she doesnt she may not be worth it!
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-11 21:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pom Pon Girl 161377 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you blew it. i couldn't live with dishonesty and would have to tell my woman. she might end it, but she deserves the choice to forgive me or be with someone that doesn't cheat on her.
2006-12-11 22:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋