Is he lying?

Question

My boyfriend's ex girlfriend e-mailed me today. We have been together for over 3 years now. But she said that he tried to get back together with her a couple months after he and I had started dating. So I just asked him about it today before jumping to conclusions, and his reaction makes him look bad. he started yelling and screaming and swearing at me, now won't talk to me. And he says if I don't just get over it, we're over. What to do?

He didn't say it was true or not yet..........

I just told him I want his story, and he said good bye.

Answer 1

It may or may not be true. Men mess around a lot and lie about it. The way he is reacting towards you seems as though he is lying. If he is not willing to talk to you about the situation he is avoiding it. If he no longer wants to talk to you then stop calling him to give hime some time to think about things and see if he comes to you. If not then you are not meant to be together, sometimes you have to let go and start over. Even if it hurts, the old saying is still true.........If you love someone set them free if they return to you it was meant to be. That is not the actual saying but this is what it means. Maybe things will work out between the two of you, but you cannot make it happen by constantlly calling him. That only makes the situation worse, it also makes you look desperate, and he has some type of mind control over you, this will make him continue to treat you this way. Give him some space, you also need time to get your head together.

Answer 2

If I were in your position I would look at the ex and determine whether or not she is a good source number one. If she has any grudges towards you and your boyfriends' relationship she may have a good reason to start you two fighting. Now if it is possible that she is a reliable source of information consider that he might be embarrassed, perhaps in the beginning of your relationship he didn't see you two as a long term deal and maybe he did attempt to get back together with his ex. If this is true he may not want to admit to you that he tried to get back with his ex for fear that you may feel inadequate because of it and or because he is just ashamed of what he did. Although there is no reason for him to yell at you for asking him a question like that, you need to sit him down and explain to him that you were not trying to start anything you just wanted to know what she was talking about, because a good relationship is honest and open. Just tell him how you feel about him and explain to him that you would not be mad or upset with him if he had. Good Luck! Hope everything works out for you!

Answer 3

I think he is lying and you really need to get away from that. I know three years is along time to go down the drain but if he is going to jump the gun like that, he is only mad because you know now. My current bf and I had this problem. When he and I got together he was still in love with his ex. Well one day she started calling him and he told me he wanted his "space". So I give him his space. He would tell me not to call him so I didn't.....but he ended up calling me by the end of the day. He said he was just checking to see if I was ok. Well after he figured out that she didn't want him back, he came running back to me. I took him back but I told him he would never find someone like me cause I did EVERYTHING for him and all he did was stamp me into the ground( I know he feels really bad for it now to cause seriously, I bent over backward for him while we had our "space"). I told him that if he wants her or is not over her to leave me now cause if he leaves me while we are dating to go back to someone that hurt him so bad then never talk to me or try to get me back because a Ex is a Ex for a reason. Now everything is great between us. Just talk to him and say some of these things and really tell him how you feel. It may hurt but it's only for the best. I really hope this helps!

Answer 4

Sorry, sounds like your over & that might be for the best.
The 'freak out' is usually a good sign of guilt or an inability to deal with any sort of confrontation. I doubt you would want either kind of person in your life.

If you really want to try, show him the e-mail, ask him one more time and tell him you would appreciate a little understanding a maturity on his part. See how he reacts the second time around. But, don't get your hopes up.

Answer 5

Looks like it was a bad move. Good to have spoke with him about what his ex-girlfriend alleged. Perhaps it was the way question was put forward to him that upsets him most. Reassure him that your love for him remains not withstanding what his ex-girlfriend had said. Let him know that you want the relationship to work thus feel it necessary to remove any uneasy feelings along the way. Keep up the good work.

Answer 6

You should dump him. If you can't go to the person you love and ask them a question and get an honest response and he flips out, he doesn't really care about you. You know he is lieng and now he is demanding that you just get over it. He doesn't even care about how you feel. Is that the kind of person you want to be with?

Answer 7

Be careful, she might just be trying to start trouble. Maybe she wants him back. But his reaction does seem suspicious. If you've been concerned about him cheating/or talking to someone behind your back before, I would end it now. I personally think if he was innocent he would have tried to explain and work it out more rationally

Answer 8

He sounds a little suspect blowing up at you like that. Maybe he blew up because he was guilty of something. If it was when you first started dating I wouldn't worry about it (depending on how serious you were at that time). Or maybe he still has feeling for her. You may want to try and talk to him about it. You should be able to talk to him about anything, w/out him going off!

Answer 9

that happened a long time ago so just get over it. as far as his reaction sounds like a "ask" to me but thats why hes your bf. just know the ex wants him back and she cant have him so be happy.

Answer 10

sounds like you may have hit a nerve.

I would hope that maybe say he did, that he was just trying to "try it on one more time" and then decided that you were the best fit. (personal experience with this, I was the one trying something on".

With his reaction, I would either say it was true and he is embarassed, or there is something more that is troubling him about your relationship.

Good luck !