My relationship has gotten better since we got back together yet when he does things that shows a lack of respect he always tell me to tell him so he can work on it. How long do I need to continue to tell him about common sense things and you simply do not do when you are living together. An example: he always has to know where and when I am coming and going. When I am at work he can't speak to me when I am on break. Today he tells me to hold on, come back an says he has company and he will call me back. This is after asking me how much longer I have for break. Am I over reacting or is it okay to be curious to whether he has change from his old way of misleading to achieve.
2006-12-11 13:03:54 · 4 answers · asked by curious1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has cheated on you in the past, which it sounds like he has. Dump his a**.
2006-12-11 13:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by sterlingentertainmentgroup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this instance, it's going to be hard to rid yourself of negative emotions. He is pressing your buttons, a lot, apparently. Calling you on break, but putting you on hold when you could use the ladies room, get coffee (or soda), relax, talk with friends at work, is rude and disrespectful. Then hanging up when he has company, leaves you wondering what is going on. That thought will stick with you for the rest of your work day. He has very effectively told you in a way, he is the boss, he can ruin your day anytime he wants. He can keep tabs on you, but you have no way to keep tabs on him.
You are not over-reacting, he is setting you up to feel badly about how you are feeling about the relationship. Sounds like he is "passive-aggressive" meaning that he is aggressive about controlling your feelings and behavior, but not physically abusing you. With this type of behavior he can drive you nuts and others will think you are the controlling B - tchy one.
Step out of that relationship, he will drive you crazy and make you and everyone else think it is your problem (and in a way it is your problem because you are having a hard time dealing with his "passive" behavior). He doesn't have a problem with his behavior, otherwise he would change. He has just found away around what you want and need from him.
Good luck, I hope this helps you understand his behavior.
2006-12-19 11:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like if he has to know where you are and when your coming and going. .sounds obsessive but perhaps he is wondering if your gonna pop in if he does have "company"..hm.. in either case move out doesn't sound healthy.he is timing something or has to have control.
2006-12-11 13:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not aint it funny how men are not as concerned about whats goin on with you when you are busy at work
2006-12-11 13:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by titan34fan1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋