so much has changed after we had our son. he just picks fights and i cant wait till he goes to work so its just me and my son in the night. we have totally lost our "spark"....oh and sex, whats that?!?!
its almost like we are room-mates and just need to do whatever it is so that our son is alright. is this normal?
2006-12-11 13:03:21 · 10 answers · asked by bossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both need to go to couples therapy right away!
2006-12-11 13:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by sterlingentertainmentgroup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and i went through that after our son was born. After the euphoria of the arrival of him went away we fought like cats and dogs. I thought about giving up before i realized how i should take my vows seriously and work through this. I told him how i felt and he was crushed. We took a trip and tried to bring back the spark. It did not work right away but over time it did. Is your husband a good father? Good man? Does he love you? your son? Does he know how you really feel? Please try to work things out because there is something there that made you marry him in the first place. Your son deserves to have a family together. Sometimes that is not the best thing but i think it is always worth a shot. I believe in the institution of marriage and i know how it feels to go through hard times and if i can help you in anyway let me know. You guys brought a son into this family together and he deserves a happy mommy and daddy together. Children do put a strain on a marriage but it can be worked out as long as you still love him. My husband works nights to so i know how that feels also and that puts strain on a marriage as well.If you want to talk more please feel free to email me.
2006-12-11 21:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of tension going on there.
Tension comes from worry.
When he picks a fight don't react. Let him vent.
A fight can only occur if you fight back, after all a person can't fight with a wall.
Is this normal?
Yes when one is worried as I perceive your hubby is.
Talk to someone older about your situation. You know someone that you trust not to judge you.
Meanwhile be supportive and once in a while give him a pat on the back as in saying you're doing a good job and I am proud of you.
2006-12-11 21:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved him enough to marry him then you still love him now, You dont stop loving somebody....Maybe you guys could talk and try to find the reason you fell in love in the first place, maybe look at pictures from the past and have a family member take the baby for a little while so you can have a night alone to rekindle the lost love.......good luck.
2006-12-11 21:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♥It's a boy♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has arguements in a marriage or relationship. you are in a rut. You need to find what attracted you to each other in the first place and work on that first. Communication sounds like it has been nipped in the bud for a long time. And PLEASE PLEASE! do not use the child as an excuse for staying together. Take a LONGGGGGG thought to why you got married and try to get the things in common back in your life. Maybe you are working too much. Find the common threads and make a date! GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-11 21:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Grandmother to be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,not really but then again whats normal? after a while being with someone things change. kids work just the stress if not having money to pay bills can make people change. talk things out,get some help.
2006-12-11 21:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be postpartum issues. Don't give up. Talk with your Dr. about how you are feeling and keep the lines of communication open with your husband.
2006-12-11 21:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I dont love mine either.
I cant wwait until mine goes t work either, I find it WAY more easy and calm withot him around.
For me, I have no interest in sex with him.
Email me.
2006-12-11 21:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he resecnts the time the baby is taking from him ,, he needs to grow up and you need to pay him some attention
2006-12-11 21:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go into counseling together to see if you can save this marriage. that is if that is what you want. It can be saved only if you want it to and him also
2006-12-11 21:27:31 · answer #10 · answered by maria p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋