Am I a bad girlfriend?

Question

If I don’t enjoy giving oral to my boyfriend, is it wrong that I get sad / annoyed / angry when he asks me to? And if he gives it to me, am I 'expected' to give it back against my wishes?

Answer 1

NOPE.

I didn't like 'going down' on my ex boyfriend and if he makes you feel like ****, then he isn't worth the sexual effort.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, you shouldn't be expected to do something you don't enjoy. If you don't like it, then don't do it.
Your bf should understand that.

That doesn't make you a bad girlfriend.

I had a boyfriend that didn't like to doing it to anyone. However, he wanted to me to preform oral sex on him, and I've never disliked it. I did think it was a little unfair that he wanted it and he didn't want to do it for me. But, I never "expected" it out of him, mostly, because I understood his feelings about it.

You shouldn't be expected to do anything. Don't worry about it. If it's a problem with him, then maybe he should find someone else to give him "head."

In a relationship you're truly happy in, I bet you would be a little more open to the idea of pleasuring someone in that manner. It's not entirely about enjoying yourself anyway. It comes natural to enjoy giving someone pleasure for me. Perhaps you should think about it that way. Maybe, you are too young to really enjoy sex the way you should.

Answer 3

Sweetheart, you shouldn't be expected to do something you don't enjoy. If you don't like it, then don't do it.
Your bf should understand that.

That doesn't make you a bad girlfriend.

I had a boyfriend that didn't like to doing it to anyone. However, he wanted to me to preform oral sex on him, and I've never disliked it. I did think it was a little unfair that he wanted it and he didn't want to do it for me. But, I never "expected" it out of him, mostly, because I understood his feelings about it.

You shouldn't be expected to do anything. Don't worry about it. If it's a problem with him, then maybe he should find someone else to give him "head."

In a relationship you're truly happy in, I bet you would be a little more open to the idea of pleasuring someone in that manner. It's not entirely about enjoying yourself anyway. It comes natural to enjoy giving someone pleasure for me. Perhaps you should think about it that way. Maybe, you are too young to really enjoy sex the way you should.

Answer 4

Never do anything against your wishes. Not everyone likes the same things. It may come to a point where you just need to be honest with him and see if there is something else he would like in place of it.

Answer 5

No, don't ever do something like that that you don't want to do. Don't let him pressure you into it either. I didn't like it at first either and wouldn't do it for awhile. I felt guilty because he gave it to me and I was not reciprocating. I finally tried it and found that it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be so now I don't really mind. You may have to just get used to it if you haven't given it that much. Still, don't do it until you're okay with it.

Answer 6

you should never do anything that is against your wishes. you should not do things that you don't enjoy yourself. might sound a little selfish, but believe me they will know if you don't really want to do it. Just because he is okay with doing it doesn't mean that you have to be.

Answer 7

Dont feel bad b/c im the same way. I dont like going down on my fiancee but he does it for me. I feel if you dont like it you shouldnt and the same for your man. If your boyfriend really likes you he should understand that you dont like it.

Answer 8

hm.. maybe just give it to him for a special reason? like he has to earn it or something
you are not a bad girlfriend just cause you dislike pleasing him in that way