2006-12-11 12:43:27 · 17 answers · asked by jusmic80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From personal experience I can tell you there are many reasons why a spouse is reluctant to have sex. One reason for me is his sometimes poor hygiene habits. I mean.. come on guys.. who wants to kiss someone who hasn't brushed their teeth since first thing this morning. Another reason is I'm tired. I work hard. My day doesn't end for me when I walk in the door. I can't just go sit in front of the tv. I have to prep the next day's meal and pack lunches and help with homework and do the laundry and on and on. There are lots of reasons for lack of interest... here's a thought..why not ask her...and seem sincere in your desire to understand. Sincerity goes a long way.
2006-12-11 12:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by sallylip2000_ca 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons. Stress, unsettled grudges. May be she wants variety and is bored with the same thing over and over again. I dont mean that she needs different partner, may be all she needs is more spice in your relationship. We cant generalize the situation here as we all are individuals. She is your wife and I am sure you know what makes her happy. Talk to her. Ask her. Pay attention to her words spoken and words that she doesnt speak and I hope that soon things will be sizzling between you too. Good luck!!!
2006-12-11 21:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Meera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that ur wife isnt interested in having sex with you, because if that was the case why be with you. dont think about sex everyday, that should be something that happens naturally and not planned. Try talking to her bout differnet things, tell her she looks beautiful. Try romancing her again. you can do all these things or just be blunt and ask her why she doesnt have sex with you?
2006-12-11 21:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by gonzalezleon3022 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not much info. to go on but it could be a number of things. I bet if you shower, brush your teeth and all of that beforehand she might be more interested. Surprise her by being a little more romantic with her in and out of bed if you know what I mean. Do little things like bring her a long stem red rose for no reason. Write her a little love note and leave for her to find during her day. Smile and tell her how pretty you think she is ...but be sincere. She'll probably melt. Then again, it could be completely hormonal.
2006-12-11 20:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question offers limited info, However every person walking the planet likes to feel important, praised, made to feel worthy etc and your wife would not be an exception. when your car cough's and splutters down the highway its probably because you haven't provided , the proper servicing, spent time tinkering and some money on it !!! but of course when you do it purr's along beautiful. Maybe you need to tinker with your wife, spend some time , spend some money on her, make her feel IMPORTANT!!and when you have her purring along, hopefully your question will be answered.
2006-12-11 23:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by deedubya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to dinner and ask her why. If that doesnt work see if she will go see a counselor. If that doesnt work then you go see the counselor. You have tried the next thing to do is ask her how we are going to split the possessions because you cant live like this.
2006-12-11 20:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are only about 8,000 reasons why.
But you've got to give us more info so we don't have to list all 8,000.
Quick list of info required:
How long married?
Marriage #:
Ages of both:
Was she into sex before marriage with you?
What has changed recently?
That's just for starters.
2006-12-11 20:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she just had a baby recently? Under alot of work and stress and having to do it all, taking care of kids, home, and work too?
Being supermom, kills sexual desires!
I wish you had more information, so we can be more clear where the problem may lie on.
2006-12-11 20:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There has to be alot more information to answer this question properly. How long have you been married? What are you asking her to do? How do you approach her? Does she work? Care for children? How do you treat her on a day to day basis?
2006-12-11 20:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your sexual activities with her are old hat. Maybe you need to rekindle the heat that hopefully was once there. Try new things and explore a bit, as long as both of you are willing.
2006-12-11 20:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋