old flame issue isn't my fault, help?

Question

he's in hawaii and i'm in florida far apart, just contacted him first time in 24 years. just happens his wife had left him.. i listened, then called and consoled him and shared different sex stuff and maybe shared pictures from him not me. don't know he seems to be bitter and he might be taking it out on me. i'm an old girlfriend from the 70's and seems like we have found eachother for a reason. but what is that reason. i really feel him

Answer 1

I say start slow. If he is bitter you don't want to get in over your head. There's no easy way to manage a bitter person. You may end up being the one who's hurt. At the very most I'd say start off as friends who listen. But watch your heart...it's very easy to fall back into routine.

Answer 2

Geographically, you are still miles apart. That could be a blessing for both of you.

From what you say, he is bitter. If so, he is probably still on the re-bound, too, and not ready for another "solid" relationship.

Go S-L-O-W-L-Y, my dear, feel him out thoroughly. Time changes people and he may not be the same person you remember from the '70s. You can't pick up where you left off, either.

In any event, after a time, you may feel more comfortable with him, and then take it to another level. In time, you could also feel that time has made you both "grow apart" and he may not be the guy you need. You will find out, tho....


Good Luck

Answer 3

Been there done that...with the old flames seemed to be rekindled. He has a past to work out before he can enter another relationship. Don't get yourself caught in a dueling couple's squabble. You said his wife left him, not divorced him. What if you got yourself involved with him, and she shows up on his doorstep. And the bitter thing and all, I'm sorry to hear that...but it's no excuse for him to take it out on you. It shows me that he hasn't healed from her, she still holds his heart. If she didn't, he would treat you like a queen, and she'd be totally forgotten. God brings people in your life to bless you, but the enemy(devil) will try to bring people in your life to pull you way down. Just because you two are back in each other's life doesn't mean it's a relationship from God. Your first real "relationship" was in what like 1970 what? Not trying to be rude but trying to get you to realize that it's from the past. That was years ago, and people change over years. People do not remain the same. Only God remains the same. Some people grow, some recline..and never really grow from their experiences. You would have to get to really "know" him once again. He's not the same person from like 24 years ago, and please don't make the mistake of being caught up in a pipe dream. I hate to say it, but I got knocked off my feet from an old flame. It looked right, felt right, but just didn't work. I was caught up in what he used to be. An old flame from 13 years ago, and I was looking at him as the person from 13 years ago. And I won't lie I very much wanted the relationship to work out. But truth is years had passed by, and he wasn't the person as I "knew" him. If you persist on pursuing a relationship, try to take it slowly...don't just hand your heart out to the man from your past without intense caution.

Answer 4

I think he may need some time. He probably is still bitter from his divorce. Doesn't sound like you "found each other", since you deliberately called him, but maybe you sensed someone needed you. Needed you to listen, and be a good friend. Start off that way and see where it leads.

Answer 5

After 24 years, wow, I would go for it. Good luck!

Answer 6

hmmm sounds like u all were posta meet in the end.. hook up with him.. good luck :)