I have switched between two "groups" of friends, now. The first group, they were all sporty and they all got everything they wanted. My mom and dad aren't like that, and I am definatly not sporty. I am sporty in the shopping is a sport kinda way. They were also leaving me out very very much were I would always go home crying and depressed. So I changed. I hang out with a different group of friends. They were shoppers, weren't sporty, but their moms and dads still got them everything they wanted. Once again, my mom and dad weren't like that. Then this friday at school, I found out that the saying " Sometimes your best friend can turn out to be your worst enemy" is oh so very true in my world. They picked on me, teased on me, and sorta beat me up emotionally I guess I would say. I am really mad at them and they weren't even sorry. There aren't any other people at school for me 2 be friend with. What do I do? Please help me. I feel like crying right now just typing this so please help me!
2006-12-11 12:39:37 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You've just managed to find the worst groups of people in the school. You need to keep looking, there are kids just like you out there. Hang in..don't be shy...and join some groups at school that interest you. If that doesn't help then hang out in your favourite places and watch for kids your own age. Sooner or later you're gonna find your own bff. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 12:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by sallylip2000_ca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school is a trip. The stuff you are going through right now is gone through by many people. Take peace in the fact that this WILL NOT last forever. The age group you are in people just want to be liked and feel special. The Insecurities you are feeling right now are felt by all of your classmates. The ones you see bullying or talking Mess to you are the ones who are especially feeling low. BELIEVE ME you will learn this later in life. as for now I would worry about being friends with people who are similar to you. Don't worry about finding a big group that are cool or well liked or envied by others. Those people are not really respected or liked. You will make it through okay! Good luck.
2006-12-11 12:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Songbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have damaged you emotionally so badly, you need to find someone to talk to the problem about. Perhaps a family member, relative, or even your pet. Express your feelings to them - Family has a way of being comforting.
Another thing you should do is find at least 15 minutes of free time alone, and think about what has happened. Then, think about how silly they were to do such things, and what a great person they missed out on by kicking you out. THEY'RE the people who missed out on something great - You.
And besides, people like that are going to wind up spoiled and unhappy for their entire lives. In the end, they will be begging you to be their friend. Shrug off what they do, and just realize what they're doing is silly. Think of the great things they lost by being so mean to you.
I can tell you're a good person, and you deserve better.
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If your friends don't like you for who you are, then they aren't a true friend. That group? Forget them! Let me tell you, as I speak from personal experience - Don't act like someone else or something different than you are. I promise you, you WILL find someone. I PROMISE. You are a good person on the inside - I can tell. You WILL find a good friend. You WILL find a friend who cares for you. You WILL, you WILL, you WILL!
2006-12-11 12:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh!! I used to have the same problem. I think you should ask people at school that you thing are super nice if they want they what you like. For example, ask them if they play any sports or like to go shopping. Or, when you go to the mall, look for some people that you reconize. Start talking to them. You never know what could happen by doing these things. I hope I helped you. Don't worry. You are definetly the NOT the only one with this problem.
2006-12-11 12:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Tina biscotti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends that aren't in the popular group tend to be the most real and understanding and accepting. Try to find someone not always the center of attention or try joing new sports or after school clubs to meet new people.
2006-12-11 12:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rita S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should concentrate on being the best you can be. Don't try to fit in with others just be yourself. Do your own thing, have a positive attitude. Get involved with school activities and you will find that you will make friends with people you have things in common with. Create your own happiness, read, exercise, play sports and most important give love and you shall receive love and remember to always wear a big smile on your face. Build up your self-esteem and learn to love yourself and then you will be happy! Don't cry either!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 12:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is that you think you are expected to be exactly like the friends you have. Try being yourself, not a clone of these other people! When I was in high school, my friends were athletes, artists, actors, nerds, brains -- in other words, not just from one group. All you can be is yourself, and if you do this, the people who appreciate you will be your true friends. Really, trust me.
2006-12-11 12:43:12 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time with these people. You can pretend like it doesn't bother you and continue to hang with them, I will tell you that it could get worse though. You could stand up to them and quit hanging out with them. There is your first group of friends that you could hang out with. You don't have to be just like your sports friends, just go have fun with some people. It'll be okay.
2006-12-11 12:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the treat you like that then you don't need them, all they're doing in hurting you and it's not something you need. You need to find friends that you can have fun with and no one gets left behind...Just be yours self and do things that you enjoy...it's a great way to meet people.
2006-12-11 13:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mandy-Lu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know how you feel. You feel as if you don't fit in anywhere. My advice to you would be for you to meet other people. How can you possibly call these people your friends if they treat you like cr&p. Look for other people, you might even find someone that will treat you with the respect that you deserve ( and woh knows, they might even like shopping! lol). Good luck ma;-)
2006-12-11 12:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Boricua♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋