My ex husband left me last year for a woman that gave him what he calls porn star sex. Shortly thereafter a couple of months to be exact she cut him off. Tells him she has to drink to be with him. Does not want to touch him. He will go to leave her and she pulls another one of her games and he is back in the endless loop again. Likes to make him feel guilty, like so many others have treated her badly and he is to.
He knows I love him and always will if we are together or apart. He has told me on quite a few occasions he made a mistake in leaving me and wants to come back. And things seem to be coming around for us. But she will make him feel guilty about something or manipulate him and there I am again in limbo.
I am me no games. How do you compete with this or do you just give up. I am not going to play these games and pull him apart as she does. I do love him and want to be with him again but I am willing to go on without him if that is what he wants.
2006-12-11 12:38:08 · 10 answers · asked by lelia tequila 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doesnt matter here what he wants. More important is what do you want? It sounds like youve already had enough and are ready to move on, so whats stopping you? He has proven many times already that he wants to be with this other girl and not you otherwise hed be with you right now. Face the truth, hes not coming back and if he does things will never be the same and you will never trust him again anyway. Divorce him, sue him for everything you are legally entitled to and move on. Find someone who will worship the ground you walk on and dont look back. Good luck
2006-12-11 12:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am going to come off sorta rough on my answer, please forgive me, it's just who I am but.....
He is tainted. Why would you want to be with him again once he has cheated on you and had sex with this girl for so long?
I wouldn't waste my time. You don't know where he has been and probably don't need to know.
Do you really want to be with someone who you really cannot trust? Do you really want to be wondering if he is up to the same thing again?
I say leave it alone and live a good life.
Everyone deserves happiness.
Life is short.
2006-12-11 12:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me tell you, there's nothing quite like 'Porn Star Sex", so I suggest you rent some videos and start practicing.
It seems like that's the only thing you two are missing.
2006-12-11 16:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt sound as tho he's got his poop in a group. And he's treating you like the proverbial ole shoe. On the other hand, you sound like a very strong and logical person. Let your head be your guide....NOT your heart. I'm confident you'll make the best decision for yourself.......
2006-12-11 12:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to be an adult and stop playing the games. It is harder than it sounds though when you are even a little involved with some one and emotionally dependant.
2006-12-11 13:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut him loose once and for all because if you don't, you're just asking for more of the same. As long as he knows that you're going to be there for him regardless of what he does, he will continue to do as he pleases. You get what you settle for.
2006-12-11 13:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. There are very few exceptions. You deserve better. Change the locks!
2006-12-11 12:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by sterlingentertainmentgroup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur ex that he needs to get away from that physco biotch and quick before she pulls something stupid...woman can be just like men at time...they can be just as mind controlling and nuts as men...so hang in there if u truely love him and be there if he needs u...good luck
2006-12-11 12:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE UP! He cheated on you, and if you make yourself more vulnerable emotionally, it will happen again, and you will once again be hurt. As hard as it may be, distance yourself from him and his sob stories before you get more tangled up in his mess.
2006-12-11 12:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have stupid written on your forehead? evidentally he seems to see it.
he is playing you like a fiddle. if you want to keep dancin to his tune keep doin what your doin.
i'd tell him in no uncertain terms. sh## or get off the pot!!! NOW!!!
2006-12-11 12:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋