My ex husband was out of state and didn't tell me he was leaving the state. We have joint custody and the right to take care of the child defaults to the other parent. I waited at church for two hours for my daughter and later found out she was taken two hours away to a party at a bowling alley. Her cell phone was taken away so she couldn't call me to tell me where she was. Is this kidnapping?
2006-12-11 12:30:53 · 19 answers · asked by Elisabeth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes this woman has no legal right to your child and i would make it a point to tell your ex that if anything remotely like this incident happens again he will only have visitation with his child!!!! This just pisses me off because she did this on purpose to annoy you, and took the phone away cause she knew how you would react. How old is your daughter? For her sake don't make a big deal about it in front of her it will only confuse her and make her fell like she is picking one over the other but what that woman did was childish and absolutley uncalled for!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 13:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it is going to depend on the terms of the child custody hearing. If all this happened during his legal visitation time then there probably isn't any crime commited. But, since they did it without letting you know, simply for a curtesy, and took her phone away it would make me think they knew they were doing something wrong.
If the girlfriend took her, it was probably at your ex's asking. And once again, if it was during his visitaion time then it was all okay. Kind like if you get a babysitter for her during the time she is with you. If he made a sound judgment and didn't put her in danger then nothing is wrong there.
However, and you didn't ask for this advice, the real problem here seems to be a lack of communication between you and your ex. The best thing you could do for your daughter is to communicate with him about your frustration about this. Don't yell at him. Have a conversation. Explain to him and your daughter that knowing where they are, while together is a safetly concern... And remember the road goes both ways. Yous hould be letting him know your whereabouts with her when she is with you. letting your daughter know that even though the two of you aren't a couple anymore you do work together when it comes to her saftey.
Good luck with this.
2006-12-11 20:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she kicking and screaming and being drug by her hair?
Not to many kidnappers take their victims to bowling party's.
Are you and your ex estranged? It sounds like he just didn't care what you thought about the subject. If he'd asked you would you have said no? maybe that's where he's coming from???
They were certainly wrong for taking her that far without discussing it but did they kidnap her? No.
2006-12-11 20:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, if he brought her back, I don't think you can consider that kidnapping. There were obviously some violations of the custody agreement, but I don't know what penalties (if any) he would have to pay or render in this case. Better check with your lawyer.
2006-12-11 20:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... From what it sounds like, the people who brought her took her cell phone so she would call and get everyone in trouble? Well, I definetely think it was illegal, but kidnapping? No, I don't think so. I consider kidnapping more like... Someone is snatched from their parents and brought to their house to stay forever.
2006-12-11 20:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a retired police officer,i would have to ask,1 is she a minor? 2was she taken across state lines3 was there intent to kidnap 4 was she taken against her will5 was she deprived of the ability to contact you
2006-12-12 01:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by trailbum48 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No (I assume your daughter went of her free will to the party). I imagine if she is old enough to have a cell phone, she is old enough to be able to contact you from the bowling alley's phone.
2006-12-11 20:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you wait two hours for your daughter? Next time this happens, call the police if they're more than half an hour late.
The rest of it needs a lawyer
2006-12-11 20:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Were you unable to contact the girlfriend as well? I dont think it's considered kidnapping. She did bring her back, didnt she?
But sombody should have notified you as to what was going on.
2006-12-11 20:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad behavior and terribly inconsiderate, but if you call it kidnapping and follow through as such, you could damage your daughter. You gotta weigh that out.
2006-12-11 20:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋