I am madly in love with a married man, and he told me recently he wants to divorce his wife and marry me, they have a daughter.What do i do ? i am in love and we cant let go, i think we are meant to be ? HELP?
2006-12-11 12:21:23 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MARRIED NOT MARREID, SORRY FOR THAT MISTAKE, I AM INPATIENT WITH THE QUESTION SO I TYPED IT WRONG.
2006-12-11 12:24:47 · update #1
Are you two sure that its real love? Because if you two are positive then I must say Go for it! Sometimes we end up with the wrong one to later in life find our true love. If he isnt happy with her anymore then you two need to give each other a chance. Just wait for the divorce. If you really love each other you can atleast wait for him to be single again.
2006-12-11 12:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by h2gj87 4 · 7⤊ 3⤋
He has both a wife and a child? Doesn't sound like much of a man to me. With that said, I would have to agree with the other answerers and say that your relationship with this individual should not be. A real man would not abandon his family, nor would a real woman take part in such a heinous crime (infidelity, that is). By dating you, he has given up on his family and, in a way, is depriving you of emotional stability and comfort. It may not feel that way, but it is happening. Actually, and if you think about it even more, the TWO of you are also depriving the wife. Oh, maybe not! I mean, the two of you have informed her of your affair, right? I mean, since both of you are such loving individuals, letting her know about all of your wrong-doing would be the moral thing to do...don't you agree? Oops...I forgot..you're having an affair! Morals just aren't a part of the equation. My bad!
Listen...the fact that you have to question what the two of you are doing and/or his intentions to marry you shows that there is a problem. Do yourself a few favors--stop listening to the lies this creep is obviously belting out ("My wife is the worst...you're the best..blah, blah, blah"), find someone more worthy of your love, LEARN HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF A BIT MORE, and for goodness sake, LEAVE OTHER WOMEN'S MEN ALONE!
2006-12-11 12:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre about to fall into a very dangerous trap. Married men will tell a girl anything he thinks they want to hear to get what he wants. The key word here is he "wants" a divorce from her, so think whats stopping him and why hasnt he filed for a divorce already? Because he isnt going to, especially with a child involved, itll cost him a fortune to divorce her, so he lies to you so he can have the best of both worlds. Never trust a married man unless he shows up with a final divorce decree in hand. You may be be in love with him but he definitely isnt in love really with you. Just remember words are exactly that and in these cases actions speak louder and that doesnt mean meeting in secluded places at odd times, no phone numbers. If he hasnt given you a working phone number that you can contact him 24 hrs a day without worrying about his wife then run as fast as you can from him or youre headed for a heart break. He will use you as long as you play his game and he needs you. Think about it. Good luck
2006-12-11 12:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything until he divorces his wife. The fact that he wants to, or that he's planning to do it, means NOTHING. He may change his mind...or decide that it's really not a good time for his daughter...or realize that child support and alimony would take up too much of his paycheque. Many married guys like to tell their girlfriends that they'll get a divorce soon...and in the meantime, get to have you, as well.
If you really want to have a relationship with him, wait until he's free before you do anything you'll regret. Otherwise his daughter will never forgive you, you'll gain a horrible reputation, and you probably won't even get the guy in the end.
2006-12-11 12:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to leave his wife, and really means it, it must be more than just a sex thing. What you have to consider is his daughter and how you are going to affect the rest of her life, her parents not being together because of you and it's nearly xmas. If her parents fight and are both miserable I think it would be better if they split up anyway, for the sake of the child. If you don't want to hurt anyone, let him split up from her and wait a while so it looks as though you got together after the split. Think also that if he cheated once to be with you he may well do it again! I know how bad it is to be cheated on and I was pregnant. You could wreck someones life. It may be good now when it's exciting but it all too often goes wrong when he gets bored again. There are some nice decent single men you could be with, why do you need so much hastle? But then again I just saw your picture and I'm afraid he is with you for sex.
2006-12-11 12:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He is half the equation...so this situation is not under your full control. This is why some say not to trust him and to wait until the divorce is final...why not play it smart, right? Others will trash you with their self-righteous, moralistic rhetoric, based on society's rules. Without judgment, I'd say; If it is truly meant to be, then it's not wrong, but rather, for the best. Just let nature take its course and it will happen. In the meantime, if the torrid affair ends, it was still a wild, erotic passionate experience. You've lost nothing and gained a memory. Enjoy the beauty of life!
2006-12-11 12:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should try and forget about him any man that would leave his wife and child for someone else is not worth knowing, who's to say he wont turn around and do the same to you.
Do you really want to be the cause of a family breaking up. I know its hard but i really think that you will be better off without this sort of man in your life. You could end up more broken hearted in the long run.
2006-12-11 12:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by reg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart don't even go there, \I know he said he will leave his wife for you and he only loves you etc etc; but believe me its a no hope. I have been seeing a married man for 5yrs he is no where nearer leaving the wife and I guess he never will. I was in love with him too now; well I guess its a habit and its better than nothing I'm getting the wrong side of 50 now so who else would want to take me out now an then. please think real carefully before you commit to this man cos sure as hell he ain't gonna commit to you. good luck
2006-12-11 12:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by stafford7176 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is you will do what you want to do..my partner is not yet divorced..but its not true of all men that they dont leave their wife because mine did..he has 2 daughters,who we see every week. we have been together 3 years at the end of the month and he is sorting the divorce out after christmas. Maybe its not right like everybody else has said but you cant help who you fall in love with can you. good luck.
2006-12-11 23:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by foxy06 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he leaves his wife for you I would not expect him to do anything less then that to you in the future. So do not be surprised. I think that you should leave him alone. Let him become available before you go after him. Are you sure that you are not the reason that he and his wife are having problems? Not saying that to insult you, but maybe they were trying to work it out, but because his focus is on you and not in his marriage it is a no win situation for things to work themselves out.
2006-12-11 12:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing first. Do not get caught up in this mess. He needs to get a divorce first. Im over 46 years old and I have heard it all. If he does not get the divorce and you stay involved, the little girl will have a really tough time with all the drama.
2006-12-11 12:27:00 · answer #11 · answered by Biometric 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋