ok I have this girls phone number and am pretty excited but when should I call her. Everytime a girl gives me her phone number I call then all of a sudden she starts ignoring my phone calls. I can't figure why they do that. It would really help because im really looking for friends but everyone is so busy doing stuff with thier other friends( They never invite me). I'm not ugly and I don't smell bad so whats going on. One of my closer friends that I lost says that I look very uncomfortable when im in a public situation but I can't help it. It automatically happens. I can't help that I get nervous around strangers. Could some one give me advice.
2006-12-11 12:19:57 · 24 answers · asked by rocko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
call and ask the girl why she would give you her number when others seem to avoid you because you get uncomfortable in public be straight with her and she may decide that you are different than everyone else who acts like they have all the right answers and tries to be so cool be yourself I stuttered badly for 25 years and still had friends because a real friend is one who knows your problems and likes you in spite of them call her right now and talk with her she can not bite you over the phone.
2006-12-11 12:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by doc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like in public. What I suggest is getting out in public more often even if you DO feel uncomfortable, you need experience in dealing with people first before you go jumping into situations like that. It can be scary I know so I'd hang out with a close friend when you do and just keep at it...it's not easy to get over but give it time.
Secondly, women can be strange about that sometimes. If you call them right away they may think you are desperate, so wait about a week and then call and just act casual...just see if she wants to hang out and DO NOT come on too strong. Then again don't jump through hoops for her either because you don't want to be a doormat either. If the chemistry is there and if she is nice then cool, if she ignores your phone calls then why do you bother?
I hope this was helpful.
2006-12-11 20:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by jonday_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always appreciated it when a man would call me within a couple of days. I don't think there are any hard and fast rules about the amount of time to take before you call.
What it really comes down to is self-confidence. If you call and sound too anxious and too "needy" that could be a turn off.
Listen, the girl gave you her number for a reason. Be happy that she evidently digs you. Be confident when you call her. It sounds like you need to work on some self-confidence issues. People can read that, even on the phone.
"Practice makes perfect". I would try to keep getting chances to call different girls. Yah, you may get rejected a bit, but there are also girls that won't reject you. The more times you call, the more confident you will get. Believe in yourself first. That is the only way that others will too.
2006-12-11 20:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the more you get out there and make friends the more comfortable you will be at it. It has taken me a long time to get comfortable in the situations you are talking about too. I'm much better now though. Try to think of this girl as a friend. Even if you are super into her, try to talk to her about what she likes and do fun things together. She will be crazy for you if you just like to hang out and spend time with her. Once you are comfortable with one person it is easier to hang out with the group if they are there. Good luck man! You'll do fine.
2006-12-11 20:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny thing.
iI used to do that...
well, one trick I can tell you.
Dont call just yet. Look for a way that she can call you. Things she may be intersted in. Like free tickets, answer to homework, cool website, discount coupons, whatever. Approach her personally, then say... or if you're too shy give her a short message in her machine.
"Oh hi Candy! i'm really sorry if I haven't called you before, i was just busy. Anyway, do you know that ***Britney Spears is having a concert on ___ and I have tickets! Perhaps you can call me if tonight... My number is :****
good luck
2006-12-11 20:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by murkycandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK coming from a girl...i like it when a guy waits a day or so to call me after i gave my number just for the fact i can think about things and so u can do the same so there are not mixed fellings about who likes who...next time give her yours as well so if she wants or thinks you are waiting to long to call she can call you or if your to nervous about calling her just leave her a text
2006-12-11 20:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...wait a couple of days...call....but keep it relaxed and relatively simple....then ask if you can call again sometime...if she says yes...wait for about a week...have another relaxed conversation...and then before you hang up ask if maybe she would like to go out sometime...if she says yes....make it for like 5 days or more later...Don't call in between! Girls can feel when a guy is desparate for a relationship...it scares them off....you just need to relax...I am sorry if you are lonely...but getting to intense too fast is not going to get you what you want. Good luck.
What ever you do...do not do what the one guy said to do...you do NOT want to tell her you don't have any friends...you do not need to tell her you have a sad life...She might feel sad for you...but it definately will not attract her to you...It is quiet confidence that is attractive...A woman wants to feel that the man she is going to be with can provide a stable environment...she doesn't want to hook up with someone that appears to not have it together. Well...I should say a woman who is put together herself...I am sure there are needy women out there who would settle for less...but I am sure, that is not what you would want for yourself either...Don't you want a woman that feels good about herself too?
2006-12-11 20:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know many women that would give out their number unless they are interested. Call her, and just say that you were thinking of her and wanted to say hello. Ask her how her day was, and tell her that you don't want to take up too much of her time...you just wanted her to know that you would like to get to know her better, and possibly talk more with her in the future. This breaks the ice, and will let you know if she is really interested in getting to know you. Also, this will let her know that you are considerate to her feelings... and sweet and open enough to let her know that you were thinking of her. Women/Girls like a man that is not afraid of his emotions!!!! Good Luck!
2006-12-11 20:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Toya B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask her for her phone # or she just gave you with out asking? caz if you did ask her #, myabe she didn't want to be mean, and could be that's why she not answering your phone and ignoring.
"uncomfortable when im in a public situation" why? just be yourself, and don't care what other people think or say.
Sometimes I use to be like that, but I was like what ****, why
2006-12-11 20:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. i say keep working on it because no metter what you do there is always going to be people out there that are going to find something wrong in you, so act and be your self and call her. the rest in the matter of luck and try talking to her as much as you can, i know this is a stupid thing to say. but the best thing you can do is just be yourself and dont care what other people say about you, you know who and what you are and thats the most important thing. hope this helped, now take care dawg.
2006-12-11 20:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by sweeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋