Happy or sad, maybe a little bit of both? Please tell us your story or why. I get sad around the holidays because my mom was buried on Christmans Eve. Add that to no more "little" kids since mine is an adult makes my sad. Wish I could get the HAPPY back to "HAPPY HOLIDAYS".
2006-12-11 12:01:27 · 16 answers · asked by NoJail4You 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
My mother passed on Christmas Eve. It has been a difficult time for me the last 27 years. I celebrated once I had children and thoroughly enjoyed the day itself. It was the before and after. But Christmas is not about me, rather the people in my life that I treasure. Mom certainly wouldn't want me to wallow in my loss another year. She loved all holidays, but Christmas was her favorite. It's time I got my perspective back and remembered it's love, not loss that is celebrated.
2006-12-11 12:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by answersforkate 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I generally associate the holidays with cheer and joy, even though I don't really have much to be happy about, at least not in the materialistic sense. I like having the ability to relax, hang out with my loved ones, and be lazy when the holidays roll around, though. Fact is, I could get along well enough if Christmas never existed. Nevertheless, I find the holidays to be a very satisfying time of the year indeed. I find the Christmas setting a more spirited one. There's more positivity around in general.
2006-12-11 12:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bored... 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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I feel good for the Christmas Holiday season , I think it is a great time to Honor the birth of Jesus and the light shows and trees etc. But I do feel sad on Christmas Day as I lost my Great Grand mother on Christmas Day in 1962 than !9 years later , I lost my Grandmother on Christmas Day. I was very close to both of them
while growing up as I was raised by my Grandparents , So I feel it then The rest of the season is still great , and the sting slowly does soften over the years.
2006-12-11 12:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't remember ever being unhappy at Christmas. I'm sorry about your mum & that you're sad. Many people tend to get sad at Christmastime--associations, past grief, & so on. Most people who like Christmas have a heightened sense of family, friends. It is an "emotional" time for them. Adding to that, a tragic incident, & there you are. I don't have a "family" & never had any children. Are your once "little" ones a distance away? Best I could suggest is to share as much as you can, with your friends, & make your home "sparkle" with tree, candles, & warmth--if only for YOURSELF. I'm not "having" Chrismas this year (on Christmas day) for reasons on which I won't digress, but you'd better believe my environment is going to make me very happy. I know that getting beyond the past isn't "easy," but so very important for you. This is NOW. Nothing can be undone. I've lost my mum & dad, & many friends over the years. I find that whenever they come to mind, & they do! I'll remember something poignant or funny that happened, & find myself smiling as if they were beside me. & so glad I had what years I did with them. They never "die" because they'll always be in my heart. Just start with something simple, like a wreath on your door, & scented candles are very comfortring. You'll find that before you realize it, the HAPPY in HAPPY HOLIDAYS will start coming back to you. It never went anywhere to begin with! You seem to need to re-connect. Taking little baby steps really works. Try to make this the best one ever--by proving you can & being proud of it. Very, very best to you...
2006-12-11 12:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww.thats so sad..my sister-in-laws mom died of cancer somewhere right before Christmas, too! Mine is happy..we have a big family...we get together after church, and eat, exchange presents..i dont know what i would do if i didnt have a family. Christmas is supposed to be fun! i try to do everything to make other people happy. like this grannie across the street. shes lonely..we usually give her food for holidays like easter, or something else..but on Christmas we make it even special.=) Merry Christmas! hope you have fun!=)
2006-12-11 12:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by babycakez 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 04:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Holidays make me happy b/c I'm with my family and friends
2006-12-11 12:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kay G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe, Xmas makes me very happy, although my mom and big siz get very sad, it hasn't been that much of a very merry Xmas for them for like 4 or 5 years... Mom is "divorced" and the love of her life is not around, and my big siz just broke up with her boyfriend... And they used to spend Xmas together, but for me, it's just happiness all over.
2006-12-11 12:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by lui_amatsu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand ur feelings.i was overwhelmingly sad at xmas for several years after my fiance was murdered.this sounds strange to say,but even if she was young,if it was a natural passing,its still better than murder,so at least u didnt have to face that kind of horror.now,im doing well,and married(to another wonderful man).u will always miss ur mom,and her dying on xmas eve unfortunately creates an open wound for u every holiday season.ur children may be grown,but as they marry and have children of their own,a whole new and wonderful world of being a grandparent someday,will open up to u.it may be awhile b4 that happens,but u have so much to look forward to! u can share traditions,stories,holiday recipes that ur mother passed down,with ur grandchildren.when ur kids grew up,u didnt lose them,go visit-or have them visit u!now that u dont have to guide them,u can be more of a friend and companion and start a whole new relationship-more relaxed and fun,now that theyre adults.volunteer at places that interest u,visit friends who have younger children and grandchildren,bake cookies for friends at work,go out with the girls,start new xmas traditions to keep u busy.but dont try to forget what happened.sometime on xmas eve,be alone,light a birthday size candle,and think of ur memories about ur mom,happy and sad.cry if u feel like it.when the candles go out,say a prayer,or "talk" to ur mom in ur mind,heart and soul,and send her ur blessings,love and peace.then get up,and purposely go about ur day.go someplace special with ur husband or a friend,walk in the park,get out with nature,try to enjoy the day.in enjoying ur life,even this holiday now marred by sadness,u honor ur mothers memory.she would hate for u to be sad forever on xmas,ur her child and she would want u to live ur life in happiness,so try for her sake.and best of luck to u.several people i know passed on/near xmas,and ive seen how hard it is for these families.i wish u peace.
2006-12-11 12:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have suffered loss of your Mom,The emotions,that you are going thru,are understandable.
Yes,I have ,I do more walking I look for others that need help
I read the Birth of Jesus,and Joy it brings
2006-12-11 12:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by section hand 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋