He moved out in January, tried counselling for one month, became distant cheated in February then by March he was sorry for everything and wanted to come back. Gave him a chance until June when he said that he was depressed again, felt that things were still the same and couldn't see how to make it work. Since June there has been barely any contact with the exception of a family bbq and 2 funerals. I keep waiting it out thinking that he'll change his mind but fear that the more time that passes the easier it will be for him to forget and move on. Which is why I pose my question it will be a year since he moved out in January.
2006-12-11 11:49:52 · 16 answers · asked by benjiandremy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anything is possible. However do you really want him back? It seems thus far he has treated you very badly. He is not behaving like a man but a petulant child. The biggest mistake you made was taking him back in March. The message you gave him was that it is ok. It was all too easy for him.
He has taken advatage of you and the love you have for him. The thing is...do you love him...or are you used to him? Maybe you feel 'better the devil I know.....'
He may return, but probably to only leave again....that's not what you want or need. I was in the same position last year. I think after a year I have got the message. It is hard to come to terms with. You feel Hey!!! he did me wrong he should be desperate to come back...not so. A year later I am happy he did not and would never take him back. I have gone back to college and getting on with life. Please try and do the same.
I know it is hard...we are hurt and confused and certainly our ego plays a big part. this will all pass in time. Look at yourself in the mirror and believe you are worth and deserve more.
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-11 12:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are correct in assuming if too much time passes the love may be lost however it is not too late for the both of you to agree on counseling and try that for a year or what ever it takes and yes your marriage can be salvage if thats what the both of you want and the two of you work at it together,Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-11 12:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. I was separated for over 7 years then I moved back home. Be prepared for some changes, but it can work out, but it is going to take both of you to work together. If one is not willing to work together, then it may not work out for you.
I wish you the best of luck, and have a Safe and Happy Holiday Season.
2006-12-11 12:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dealing with the male perspective of the question you posed, although I didn't cheat, she did. I wish I knew were it was going too and if I'm crazy for still wanting to try. Sorry I know this doesn't answer your question, but your not alone! Good Luck.
2006-12-11 11:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for you guys to reunite. It will be hard and you guys have to build your trust again. Try to do things every now and then to keep the relationship upbeat. Do not wait for him and do not take him back unless you are certain that both of you want it. You will just get hurt again. Best of luck!
2006-12-11 11:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he came back once, but wasn't happy, and left again. does not sound too promising really. we have to accept that sometimes things don't work out the way we wanted them to. if he cheated on you, than it may be hard to go back to what u had, because cheating changes it all. it may be possibble but it does take two to reconcile, can't do it by yourself. it has to do with something deep inside of him, not with you. your heart is in the right place, but maybe his isn't. if he won't come back to you, there is very little u can do about it. will do no good to wait and hurt, and put your life on hold for something that may never be.
2006-12-11 12:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is too wishy washy - you need to just get it over with. He cannot make up his mind. He's unsure. You'll have to start the divorce if that is what you decide to do. I think you COULD get back together, but this will continue to happen. He wants the best of both worlds.
2006-12-11 11:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but is it desirable? Only you can answer that. Doesn't sound very promising from here. My suggestion is that you worry more what you want and a whole lot less about what he wants to do. Put yourself first. I know that doesn't sound "right" to you but it's true. If you always put others first you don't get your needs met. That's not good.
2006-12-11 11:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I reunited with my ex husband after 8 years apart, another marriage and two children...of course it's possible!
2006-12-11 11:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u need to move on 4 u babe hes not even trying u get a life hun u get 1
2006-12-11 11:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋