Im 16 with two kids and my boyfriend wants to have baby...?

Question

im only 16 and i have twin girls who are 2 in half and my boyfriend who is not the twins father want to have a baby. i mean hes has been a great father to the twin he even wants to adopt them but im a junior and i want to go to college but not with 3 kids

Answer 1

Good Lord! is he nuts? You already have had 2 kids when you were 13 and he wants another? I'd tell him. . . FORGET it! Work towards your education goals. You will need that degree to raise those 2 girls in a decent environment. That request is unreal!

Answer 2

Fist of all, didn't you learn from your first pregnancy[which, by the way was a VERY young one] that men usually tell you they love you, act like it, make a baby, then take off, leaving you with nothing? Don't make the same mistake twice...
My aunt had her first child at 13 years old. Her boyfriend who coached her into having the baby left 3 months after she discovered she was pregnant.
She got another boyfriend who was a good father, dated him awhile, then when she was about your age, he decided he wanted a baby too.
She had ANOTHER baby and the same thing happened, he stuck around a little longer though.
She was forced into prostitution because she didn't listen to her mother or my mother[her sister].
Now she's married for the 3rd time and has 4 children, all grown.

Learn from your first mistakes, don't repeat them.
If this guy loves you, he will wait until you're 18 and legally marry you.
If he wants to adopt the twins that's great! Not many men about your age would do that.
Wait and see if he's the one or you'll be sorry if you leap without looking

Answer 3

Take those desires and use it for some good by working at a daycare or preschool or volunteering at a children's hospital. But I don't know anyone who wanted a baby more than my friend who finally had a baby at 25 (she waited a year after marriage) and after the fact she said in retrospect she would have liked to have had more time getting to know her husband and working on marriage first even though she loves her baby and has no regrets it is very hard on your friendships and relationships.

Answer 4

You can go to college, with 3 kids as easliy as with 2 kids.....

So talk to your boyfriend about your dreams, make sure he is on the same page. Talk to him about money, the expenses of having another kid, the possibility of having another set of twins, the expenses combined with the expenses of going to college. Who is going to be working, who is going to be taking care of the kids, while you are in college. Talk to him about commitment, and marriage or at least staying the course for the next 20 years together.

IF you are on the same page, about all these things and his dreams are the same as yours, then he will see that your grades for the next 2 years will be far more important then his desires to have a child with you. He will understand that with commitment comes the gift of being able to wait to have a child for a few years. If your dreams are the same, then he will have his baby (and I do understand his wishes) and you will have your education.

Answer 5

If this guy is the real deal he'll wait until you are ready to have more kids. He should understand where you are at in your life, and I hope he's not way older than you. Stick to your guns and go to college. You already know how hard it is to be a teen Mom, don't add to that, you can have a very full life and still have plenty of time to add more kids to it. Good Luck to you and kudos to you for staying in school and wanting to get that education, so many girls who get pregnant during their teens drop out of school.

Answer 6

Tell him that you really love him and love the fact that he wants to have a child with you , but you already have enough on your plate for now. Tell him you would rather go to college first so that you can make a better future for you and your family. And if he loves and respects you, then he will support your decision and help you with your goals. Don't let him talk you into something you don't want to do. He may or not be in your future, no-one knows, you need to think about what's right for you and your girls right now. GL.

Answer 7

If he really cares for you, then he will listen to you and understand how important it is to you to have an education. Whatever you choose to do this should be your decision. DO NOT let someone else decide FOR YOU! Your boyfriend and you should begin putting money away so that your children will also be able to go to school. I suggest that you study the BIBLE with a group of Christians and your boyfriend as soon as you are able. My wife and I love children but we BOTH completed our education first and have been married for 31 years. She is the most wonderful woman that I ever met! I would never decide such a thing FOR HER! Have a great holiday with your children.
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Answer 8

I understand your problems (I'm a mother of 3 kids one more on the way). I was pregnant with my 5year old son my freshman year of college. It was hard trying to earn my teaching degree, handling a baby and a hubby. I would say wait and see if he's 'the one'. Apparently the twins' daddy wasn't... he left.
Hope this helps (Mother to mother- have twin girls- 5 month old)
♥ The Campbells: Blaine (hubby), Olivia (me) James, Emma and Madison

Answer 9

Then wait. If he loves you that much he will wait until you are ready. You know how hard it is to go to school with children. Don't do anything you don't want to do because you will regret it. Also.. he says he will be around but the twins dad probably did at first also. Good luck I hope you make it to college.

Answer 10

Girl no bump that this is about what you want. I'm 25 and I have 3 kids and this is a 24 hour 7 days a week job you know that. No time for yourself it's all about them. What he wants don't count because there ain't no guarantee that he's gonna stick around for all that when it gets crazy. Girl this ain't no joke
be careful make your decision wisely please, your to young. Let me rephrase that " your still young''. Whats the rush? You take care of your kids right you decide. Good Luck Sweety.