I've been asking forever and its always the same excuse, cant find a babysitter and don't have enough money. But we could get someone to watch the kids and we do have the money to go out every now and then.
2006-12-11 11:42:09 · 43 answers · asked by MiZmeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband hasn't taken me out in over 5 years.....Can't wait to find out if any body knows.
2006-12-11 11:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by tas211 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would state a fact (put your foot down) that you are going out tonight, you have a baby sitter and you can afford it. Tell him he can go with you and enjoy each others company or he can stay home, watch the kids and wonder what you are doing because you are going out with or without him. And Do It!! It has worked for me before in many situations such as grocery shopping, Christmas shopping, family events etc. The trick is to show the man you can be independent and don't need him to do things with you to be happy and he'll have second thoughts if not the next time. At least this has worked for me.
2006-12-11 11:52:31 · answer #2 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a reliable babysitter and surprise him by kidnapping him (so to say) and take him somewhere sweet and romantic (beach sunset, jazz club) where it is not expensive at all. spend quality time and be creative with say a small gift (hand craft, poem, or picture montage) and just talk about how much you appreciate him and how thankful you are. play it cool by not expecting anything in return. it's no good unless he wants to reciprocate. it might take him a while to return the favor the way you want. so don't be discouraged, be cheerful and continue to surprise him, he'll come around. remember you don't have to spend a lot of money to enjoy an evening out of the home together.
try to focus on things that you think he'll enjoy. things you'll enjoy will come in due time. remember you want to get him into the game first.
2006-12-11 11:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, instead of waiting for him to take you out, why dont you take him out? Dont make it anything dramatic or go all out with it. Just something something small. Set up the babysitter and everything and make sure he doesnt make an excuse like, "oh I'm tired and you wasted your/our money". Tell him y'all both need to go out and get away from kids to have time together. Hope this helps!
2006-12-11 11:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a babysitter and inform him that you two are going out on such and such date at such and such time. Pick a venue, and just go. If you guys have enough money to have a child, certainly $40 for dinner every once in a while isn't gonna break the bank.
2006-12-11 11:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him there are 2 halves to a date that's coming up.
You are going to work on the halves together.
1st half: you'll get the sitter - he'll look up movie times and get dinner reservations somewhere not too expensive but nice. Or whatever.
2nd half: You'll be wearing sexy lingerie and high heels and giving bj's and the works, and he'll be muff diving and banging you like a screen door in a hurricane.
Don't forget to sneak a few handfuls while you are out. Encourage him to do the same so by the time the 2nd half starts, both benches are warmed up.
2006-12-11 14:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of prostituting yourself to him like some are advising, talk to him. Tell him how it is important for the 2 of you to spend some quality time together and that it would mean a lot to you. My hubby doesn't like to go out either, but we do every once in a while b/c i make it a priority...Maybe find a new place he would like or plan something you know you both could enjoy.
2006-12-11 11:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange for the babysitter before he has a chance to say no, and pick a place to go that you know he will like also. You want him to think of going out as fun for him as well as for you!
2006-12-11 11:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by moto 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is just being lazy....take the initiative...set up the babysitter and get tickets to something he would like to go to - sports game etc....he will return the favor but it needs to be a little give and take on the first one
2006-12-11 11:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by Tricia B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can do something at home. You could put the kids to sleep early and have a nice romantic dinner at home. It's cheaper than going out. You can cook a wonderful meal and maybe he'll remember how much he loves spending time with you and that he'll do anything for you. ^_~
2006-12-11 11:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lotii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you greet your returning-from-work husband at the door wearing something nice and introduce the babysitter.
2006-12-11 11:53:35 · answer #11 · answered by shyvicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋