how can i eliminate the possibilty of an only-physical relationship with my boyfriend? i like doing stuff with him but i dont want him to think he can get it all the time. i also want us to have a more loving relationship even without the sexual attributes. how can i make sure he loves me for who i am and not what i can do in the bedroom?
2006-12-11 11:36:45 · 7 answers · asked by one&only<3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know how you feel. I thought about this all the time. I would definetly bring this up with him, i did with my baby, and he completely understood. you are completely right..you do not want your relationship to just stay between the sheets, it should mostly be about trust, commitment, faith, the lord, and patience, all of this is important. God Bless. and be safe.
2006-12-11 12:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it not good enough to say that you miss something as if it were a self-evident truth. What is it about the physical intimacy, specifically, that you are missing. What need is being fulfilled by the slow dancing, what feeling does it give you. Can you describe it? Perhaps you can suggest another activity that may cultivate the feelings you need. Also consider the possibility that this feeling has it roots in the fact that you are not achieving an orgasm in these 5 minute escapades. Is he just taking you for grated or is there something else going on with him. Relationships are dynamic and chaotic. Nothing in his behavior is completely separate from you and visa versa. Have you changed in any way that might cause you to send mixed signals? Good Luck
2016-03-29 03:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have given him sexual satisfaction up to now and your relationship exists on this basis it will be difficult to change it without him getting upset. If you wish to change it then you must change first and never go back to basing a relationship on sex alone. The best way is to let him know by telling him there is more to a relationship than sex. Second, if he tries to have sex again with you and you refuse, stick to your guns and tell him if that is all he wants then he can leave. Doing anything else outside of these will not work.
2006-12-11 11:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. The seeds have already been planted.
What will have to happen is a calm sit down conversation with him. He needs to know your intentions, and his maturity will determine what happens next.
Be cautioned that he may be just into you for the physical relationship. He will either be into it or he wont.
2006-12-11 11:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about what is what you want...I think that you do need to talk and then you will see if yo and him are in the same page or that he just want the fisical relationship with you...Do it now before is too late...You will decide from there...Some mens just want the fisical think with some womens and you should find out about if you want more the just fisical.
2006-12-11 11:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending time together that doesn't involve sexual activities. Try going out to the movies or taking a walk in the park together. Try having a picnic or going out to dinner. If he doesn't want to spend time with you in other ways, then it could mean something.
2006-12-11 11:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lotii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he shows no interest in you other than sex, then he is there for sex only and the rest is not going to happen,
2006-12-11 12:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋