Do you notice people that exude self-confidence?

Question

I don't mean people really close to you like friends or family. But can you tell apart people who are obviously self-confident (not necessarily arrogant) in your acquaintances, classmates, coworkers, strangers, etc. What is it that gives it away? Are you more drawn to them or people who don't seem as confident?

Answer 1

Most people that I've met that exude self-confidence I thought were jerks who dominated conversations, down played everyone else's contribution and made everyone do the projects their way. I am attracted to people who don't seem as confident.

Answer 2

Great questions tonight!

I do notice self confidence. I am not necessarily drawn to it. I am drawn to kind and friendly people. They do not alway exude tons of self-confidence and that is okay. It's the heart that counts.

What gives it away is that they can walk into any room and suddenly people have noticed them. It's quite obvious. It doesn't necessarily mean they are arrogant. They are just happy & at peace with themselves. It's a good thing we should all strive for.

Answer 3

Chin Up - This is a good one. Dont be looking at the ground. Look at the person you are after. Eyes Open - Duh. Be Well-Groomed - Not a matter of confidence, but hygiene. This is important nonetheless. Clean, Unwrinkled Clothes - Not really important. Maybe Bright Colors - Not important at all. Darker colours are usually better when dating. Stand Up Tall / Good Posture / Chest Slightly Out / Stomach In - NO, dont make yourself uncomfortable. This will make you less confident and fidgety. Don't Look Around Alot - Keep your eyes on them. It's shows them that you are interested. Move Slower When You Move - What ... this one is retarded. Be In Best Shape Possible - What? Be yourself. Be Open, Approachable (Don't Cross Arms / Don't Ball Fists) - Keeping you hands in your pockets falls into this too. Be Aggressive and Outgoing Socially (Start Conversations, Talk to people) - Starting conversations is good. Being "aggressive" is not. Don't be the "alpha male" as women usually don't go for that. Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously (Joking, Dancing, Laughing) - This is good, but only if you are not nervous. Sometimes joking is taken as a defensive mechanism. So only do it if you can pull it off well. Don't joke around too much, there is a limit. Make Steady Eye Contact With Anyone You Talk To - as I said a few times above. Walk Strong, Slowly, Purposefully - slowly? this is just another retarded one. Speak Clearly, Slowly - clearly, but not slowly. Speak at a moderate speed. Smile, Be Happy - Yes. Having a smile and being happy is very approachable. Don't Be Stiff / Lame / Shallow - Shallow shouldn't be there. But don't be any of these. Don't Act Like Jerks / Obnoxious - Basically don't be the "alpha male," its unattractive to most women, and the women that like it are bad news. Friends Look Like They Have Your Back - This is a little harder, and not really important. It is good to have a "wing man" though. Friends Are Confident as Well - Confident friends are easier for girls to approach, again if you are doing the approaching, then this doest matter much. and to add one ... Just be yourself. Don't put on a fake show. Get the person to like you, the real you.

Answer 4

Yes. I think it's just the way a person holds themselves (ie, a confident person generally stands a little straighter, not with slumped shoulders, etc., and looks people in the eye.)

I think confident people are drawn to other confident people, although there is a pull on everyone towards really confident people. I find myself drawn towards people that are confident, but not in a way that makes them feel like they have to impose that confidence on others, if that makes any sense.

Answer 5

I think self-confident people are attractive. The affirming eye-contact, purposeful stride, assuring and definite answers, calming tone of voice. All these show someone who knows what they want and also know who they are. I'm more drawn to confident people, even though they can appear to be intimidating at times, because it just gives me a sense of security. It beats being with someone who has shifty eyes, no poise, uncertain answers and a stuttering voice.

Answer 6

How can you even ask that when I am on line? My exuding does not extend that far? Arrogance and self-confidence go hand in hand. I am arrogant because of my self-confidence. That and I am half French.

Answer 7

yes, its usually a good thing but can be bad if people use their confidence the wrong way. Everyone should be treated equal no matter what level of confidence you may have compared to another person.

Answer 8

Those are really the only people we notice..those will low self esteem make it a point of disappearing or being invisible.

Answer 9

confident but quiet are way cool...so theyre not arrogant and they still got confidence

the smiling and walking up straight part gives it away

Answer 10

I do notice them. I am not drawn to them.