she tells me i cant got hang out wit my boyz n drink n all that....but she talks 2 her firends bout goin 2 drink wit this dude.....n i gues im havin mixed feelins.....cuz i wunna break up wit her cuz of it.....but i love her....n i dont wunna leave her.....what would you do????
2006-12-11 11:16:54 · 34 answers · asked by Kyle P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move on .
2006-12-11 11:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, She dont run you and you dont run her. If you want to hang with the boys tell her hey, I love you alot but I just need sometime to hang too.It dont mean your not important or it changes what we are.If she gets mad, too bad, she will get over it if she loves you and learn to give you some respect..Otherwise she is going to try and control you from here on out. It wont change any other way.Just remember to give the same back. Let her have her space and time to just be her as well.I just dont think if someone loves someone they would ever want to control what a partner wants to do.Only insecure people try to control others and that isnt a healthy relationship.
2006-12-11 11:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her why do u wanna break up with her for it instead of talking it out with her first? try talking to her about it and saying that u really don't feel like she is being understanding or FAIR for that matter. and that is all beside the point. if you want to go out and drink with your friends then that is your choice. if you are an alcoholic, or an angry drunk, or bring problems into the relationship because of your drinking then i can see where she'd have a problem with it but if you are a social drinker or just like to have fun she should try and be more understanding. if not, she will either have to accept u how u are or u should take a break with her because it isn't fair to yourself to be in a relationship where you can't be yourself. my advice: have a lengthy conversation with her about how you're feeling before you make a rash decision and break up with her. especially if u say u love her.
2006-12-11 11:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think i wld be more jelous of the fact that she wants to drink with another guy not just the girls. Maybe have a day a week when you can get together with your friends and do what you want. I would say she seems a bit controlling, jelous or whatever and I would question wanting to be together with this kind of person. She will always resent you for going out with the boyz i think. How much of your independance to you want to give up to be with her?
2006-12-11 11:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by leilacara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love someone, you should stop at nothing to salvage that relationship. It sounds to me like she's fed up about you going out all the time so she wants to get back atcha. If you truly respect your lady, let her know in the future when you go out you will keep her in the know about when you'll be home and maybe give her a ring once in a while when your out to let her know your okay. Women really respect that. If shes talking about wanting to persue another man,. well thats a bigger issue and you should just be open and ask her what her intentions are for the future.
2006-12-11 11:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Third EyE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and explain that it is a 50-50 relation, if she doesn't want you to go drink with the boys then she shouldn't be aloud to go drinking with the girls especially if she is wanting to drink with another dude and not you, that's messed up. Tell her how you truly feel and if that doesn't work than you really should think about another woman. Good Luck Bro.
2006-12-11 11:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are equal if you cant go out neither should she. I understand but everyone needs a little time for themselves. But you are not drinking with girls you are drinking with your boys, so why is it okay for her to drink with this dude. I suggest you put your foot down before its too late. Let her know how you feel about all of this.
2006-12-11 11:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Evie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give you both some time to talk things through and get an understanding of what is going on. If she wants to hang with her friends and you don't have a problem with it and when you wanna hang with yours but she does have a problem with it then you should just tell her how you feel about what is going on and if she doesn't want to reason then you should just end it with her and find someone who can respect you and let you be yourself and hang with your friends.
2006-12-11 11:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful_rose_1991 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is sit her down and tell her, If she can go out with the girls, then why can't you go out with the guys? Say we need to talk about this, I love you, but the controlling issue, has got to stop. we need to be on board equally! Have a great holiday! Now if she is not going to go along with this, then it may be to your best interest to move on, so you can have some fun, and peace in your life!
2006-12-11 11:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find out really why she doesn't want to hang out with you. Cause if she says that she doesn't want to cause your drinking and shes drinking with her friends and others that doesn't make much since if you know what i mean. Well just talk it out face to face with her and find out if she still loves you and what is her explanation of this problem.
2006-12-11 11:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you she will trust you enough to let you go out with your friends, and if she can go out with other dudes then you should tell her about how you feel about that.
2006-12-11 11:20:56 · answer #11 · answered by Breana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋