are you tired of small talk?

Question

i find myself avoiding situations where i know that's all there is.i know there is a time for it but lately i crave a good disscussion about almost anything.it's not that i think i am better than those who like it it's just that i need more. doesn't anyone like to have a good talk anymore?

Answer 1

I'm tired of small talk. I think that after living as long as I have, I ought not be afraid of a talk that's a bit bigger. The reason why I believe so many people are thrilled with small talk has to do with the fact that it is safe and none-offensive. It is the perfect way for us to waiste breath in an attempt to break the ice.

For example, I walk up to you on the street and say, "nice weather we're having, isn't it?" To which you reply, "yes it's lovely." You and I are now trapped in small talk. Yet, if all I'm talking about is the weather, it's pretty hard to upset you. It isn't like you'll stand up and say, "F*ck you, f*ck the weather and f*ck everything you stand for!"

The same would not be true if I came up to you and started discussing politics or religion (what I consider to be "large" talk). I feel that there is a strong need for medium talk. It must be more important than small talk and less offensive than large talk. I'm open to suggestions on topics.

Answer 2

I do the same thing. I dread having to chit chat with people when I know neither one of us is going to get anything meaningful out of it and neither one of us really cares what the other one has to say. When at a party or social function I find myself tucked away in a corner somewhere listening in on other people's small talk and coming to the realization that I'm glad to be a wall flower because most people couldn't carry on a meaningful conversation if they had to.

Answer 3

Yes small talk is very awkward for me. And I find it irking that it's unlikely either of the participants will ever remember anything the other said a day afterward.

I love having deep discussions with people whose opinion I value, especially about things that matter to me like love, life and religion. It really feels like baring your heart and soul to someone else and you come away feeling so fulfilled and satisfied. Best of all it brings you closer to the people you talked to.

Small talk can't even compare.

Answer 4

I relate. However, to get into a good discussion, it means meeting people and the way to meet people is to start with small talk :-(. I know that it takes me time to trust people before I will get into a serious conversation with them. I need to gauge how the person would react to a deeper conversation and that takes time. Anyhow, life is full of different seasons. Sometimes we feel like being sociable, sometimes we don't :-p.

Answer 5

Yes. I hate being asked, "How are you?" as if the asker is the least bit interested. I've occasionally tried answering with something outrageous like, "I think I'm going to kill myself later," only to receive the standard reply, "That's good."