I have been with my boyfriend for 13 months and we moved in together. He knew that when we started dating that I had 3 kids. But now he says that he can't stand them and doesn't want them there anymore. My kids are with me week to week so I dont have them all the time. What do I do I'm in love him.
2006-12-11 11:09:43 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
find a new man...your kids should come first...if they don't then PLEASE give them a chance to have a loving family with an unselfish mother by putting them up for adoption or terminating your parental rights to their father...you suck if you even have to ask this question i feel sorry for your children.
in my opinion this is a no brainer if you are a good mother who truly loves her children.
2006-12-11 11:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by never2pink 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I once had a girl friend who had a daughter. I think I loved the daughter more than I loved her -- she was the sweetest little kid you could ever want. When I finally got full custody of my son, my girl friend met him just once and said how much she hated him -- he was all of seven years old and had been abandoned by his mother four months after she divorced me and got full custody of him. It took me three years of fighting to get him back, and the girl friend said she hated him? I sure miss her daughter. She's probably about eighteen now. Wonder how she's been.
What kind of parent would put her own life above that of their kid's? Yes *sigh*, you have to have a life too and you should be "Happy" in that life. But come one. Get real. He's JUST a "boyfriend." Guys will come and guys will go, but your kids are there forever. Get your priorities straight. He has a choice, he can either learn to love them as much as he does you, or he can hit the curb.
And people wonder what's wrong with today's youth. As if THEY had no part of their lives...
2006-12-11 11:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Doc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him but what kind of person is he if he can't deal with your kids. Get out now before it goes any further. You are better off without someone like that in your life. Next time make sure that your new boyfriend gets to know your kids before you move in together.
2006-12-11 11:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by wanabe30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. He may only be your boyfriend for a few more weeks, or he could be your boyfriend for years, but your kids are your kids forever. If he really loved you he'd never try to make you choose between him and them. He sounds like a self centered, jealous, selfish jerk. And honestly....no decent mother would even have to ask a question like this.
2006-12-11 11:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by mazey1967 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a mom before anything so they need to come first. I was a single mom in the AF and I always kept my dd away from anyone I was dating unless I thought they had potential. I had to end a relationship once because she didn't like the guy
Sometimes we ahve to make sacrifices for our children and if he can't deal with the whole package he needs to go. No real man should ask a woman to choose between them or the kids.
2006-12-11 11:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by heartache 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he wants to be with you then he has to love the whole package. Tell him that and if he can't get with the program then you need to leave his butt. When you have kids they become part of your life. Just because you may love him doesn't mean you need to be with a guy who could hurt your kids or whatever.
2006-12-11 11:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nicky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? You are actually asking what you should do? How can you possibly "love" a man who hates your kids and doesn't want them around.
Say after me..."Love me, Love my kids". If he can't love your kids and he obviously doesn't love you enough to even pretend to like them why would you keep him around? Your kids should come first, always. If you choose this loser over your kids you are a terrible mother.
2006-12-11 11:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by PRS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you have to put your kids first before ur boi friend because your kids always come first well thats what my mom always says if a guy dont respect your kids than they cant be together because your kids are like a part of you and hes saying that he doesnt like part of you and in order to be in love he has 2 love all of you
2006-12-11 11:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by magdaly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the words of Carlos Mencia tell him "To get the puck out". Any man doesn't understand that when you get with a women that has kids its a package deal. I new that when i got with my fiance and i can tell you from experience that i wouldn't trade them for anything, and she excepts my 2 and my grandson, which by the way makes her a 27 year old grandma, and you guessed it she wouldn't change a thing, so do you and your beautiful babies a huge favor and tell him to "GET THE PUCK OUT".
2006-12-11 11:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. A man should never make you feel like your choice is them or your kids. You can and will find someone that will not only love and accept you, but also your children. If they don't mean as much to them as to you, then find someone who will feel that way.
2006-12-11 11:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by andyburnham 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋