how can I get my husband to quit asking me for sex all the time... o.k. when we first got married... we had sex about once every 1 to 2 days... then I got pregnant and it went to about 3 times a day... about 6 weeks after our son was born it went back to once every 1 to 2 days... but here lately he has been wanting it about 4 to 5 sometimes 6 times a day... WHAT TO DO???
2006-12-11 10:58:44 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just say WHOA THERE BUDDYY!!
i love you so much and you mean the world to me! but enough is enough! i mean 5 or 6 times a day! thats a lot.. and when the kids get older.. that is most deffinately not gunna work anymore!
=]
or just say hey, i love you, but i dont think we should be doing this as often as we do, maybe we should try toning it down a bit, because when our child/children get older, we dont want them 2 catch us! that wouldnt be good!
or just put out completely for a few days, i think he'll get the point.. =]
2006-12-11 11:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different type of people. In the case of your husband, it is possible that he trying to get your attention like all above say. But you have a right to not appreciate this kind of behavior. Talk with him. Tell him that you love him, but there are other stuff that you want to do than sex. Such as spending time with your child all together, see your friends, have some studies to do if you are still at school or are just tired from work or chores. Make him understand that you cannot do 24h/day. You need to rest.
2006-12-11 19:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that you are tired from having and being with the baby. I had to do this with my husband and I found out that after 3 weeks of coming up with an excuse about once or twice a week; he finally excepted the truth which was I was tired and just no into it.
By being honest with my feelings, and listening to his feelings we were able to get more accomplished then having an argument. It just seems that after we have children we loose our sex drive sometimes. I have talked with alot of my friends that were the same way that you have explained.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-11 19:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by M.S. Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is the first time i've ever heard about the guy wanted that much sex a day. Watch him, make sure he don't watch xxx movie so much or looking at playboy magazines, then it might be better. But if he's not that kind of guy, then you might try to tell him with a nice way that you have to take care of your son.
2006-12-11 19:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't win, can he? If next week, he left you alone and did not ask for it for two weeks in a row, you'd be posting a question: "My husband is no longer interested in me....He used to ask for sex 6 times a day, now barely once or twice in a month. WHAT TO DO???"
2006-12-11 19:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by iamcooldela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? 6 times a day? Maybe he has a tumor or something. Just say "NO" if he wants it more that you are comfortable with. You may need to talk with him about it first and tell him how you feel. If he stell has a problem have him see his doctor and if he is OK physically then you should both go to a therapist.
2006-12-11 19:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by er.doctor 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is just his way of trying to get your attention. Men get all strange when we have kids cause it does (and should) take time away from them...
Try to make the effort to get a sitter and have date nite with daddy...get dressed up and be all sexy the way it used to be, he needs it and you do too, trust me, the son will survive and will be much more happy if you have a loving relationship and set a good example...good luck to you and your 2 sons!!!!lol
2006-12-11 19:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him some condoms and a hooker, just kidding. This does not sound normal (hate that word) Is he feeling jealous of the baby and needing ALLOT of attention, is so tell him to grow up and relive himself at least a few of those times.
2006-12-11 19:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by crct2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him about limiting sex to (2x per day?). Offer to watch him masturbate, and talk him through the experience. Find a comfortable middle ground, whatever it may be. But, don't shut down. If you do, he'll find another place to get satisfied.
2006-12-11 19:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Hound Dawg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about it...gently? I'm sure anyone would understand that you have other needs to, and that it's not a reflection on him or your love for him. You have a child and all the other obligations in your life. Just be upfront with him. If you can have sex with him that often, surely you can talk to him!
2006-12-11 19:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Angry Daisy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋