how can you control jelousy?

Question

i like this guy but i know he does not like me. when i see him with other girls i get mad and become waaaay jelous. how can i control that??? and if you have the same roblem how do u deal with it????

he doesnt hate me. we use to be really tight but now we just dont talk anymore!

Answer 1

Just know the right guy will come along at the right time, and when you are LEAST expecting it- this is what my grandma told me, and it was true for myself... I went a few yrs without any man in my life, and when I finally found my mate, I thought we'd just be good friends, so I really wasn't expecting it when he kissed me, then I snapped and was like wow... maybe this could be... we now have a 14 month old son and are happily married :) I'm also 24 going on 25... so it took some time for it all to happen!

Here's another thing- stop giving this guy attention, that's what he expect from you I'm sure... and the moment you stop, give it some time, and he just might be after you- but then again, I dunno if I'd give him any attention at all if this does happen. Know you are beautiful and you have nothing to be jealous about... you will find a new crush. And if that one doesn't work out, there could always be another. Jealousy can look really bad especially if u let it all out- and even if you try not to, people can sense it, so be careful, and respect and love yourself before finding a guy.

Answer 2

I used to have a jealously problem too until I taught myself that feeling jealous is part of having self insecurities. Instead of feeling jealous for others I simply dropped the whole negative attitude. If you like this guy, but he doesn't like you back in that way .. don't give yourself a hard time. Maybe he only likes you as a friend, which is okay too!! Not sure how old you are, but if you're in your teens you'll meet more boys and guys as you get older. You'll meet someone that you like and the boy or guy you meet will love you back for who you are and will respect you. Just don't stress too much over this boy that you like and instead of feeling jealous think about something that is more important for you.

Answer 3

I had that same problem. Jealousy won't go away on it's own through sheer wishful thinking, and you won't change your attitude. You have to either eliminate that person from your life (without violence, please), or bring somebody more important into it. That's really all there is, unfortunately. It's time for a clean slate. Any friendship that was there has gone bye-bye until you get this resolved.

Answer 4

have you ever been cheated on? or are you purely annoying? in case you've self belief her than you shouldn't hardship, she probable receives a touch eco-friendly once you seek for suggestion from from women(in case you do) even with the undeniable fact that it purely takes position. next time you sense jealous particularly of wondering about her dishonest imagine about chuffed circumstances you 2 have had and at the same time as shes chatting with three guy, be effective to him it's going to make your girlfriend chuffed and he or she'll imagine higher of you, because once you educate a guy that your mad at him for speaking on your girlfriend it's going to easily stress him harder to seek for suggestion from from her. Shes probable purely happy you're not to any extent further this manner of boyfriend that makes her deactivate facebook and locks her faraway from the international. yet keep in concepts some women locate jealousy lovable, so do what makes you and her chuffed!

Answer 5

You feel jealousy when the object of your affection gives their love and attention to someone else. That hurts and hurt always precedes anger. ( which is what jealousy really is. Do you ever see someone who is jealous be completely cool headed about it? No, they are always angry about it )

It's difficult to control, however. A good therapist would do you a tremendous amount of good. Find one.

Answer 6

ok, i've dealt with that 2...and i know it's hard, but you just gotta let him go. how could he be worth holding onto if you are not going 2 get anywhere with him? it's just going to make you more upset stressing over the fact that he doesn't like you. keep your eye out for other guys, too. there could be some out there that like you that you don't even know about yet.

Answer 7

well if you dont really kno if he likes you then you cant get mad at the other chiks 4 digg-N him so all i can say is make yo move on him and then if ya'll are actually a couple then you could get mad at them other girls 4 messin around w/ him

Answer 8

the only way that u can control jelousy is by changing ur behavior
if he were ur bf..then u should behave like that becuase that means that u cannot trust him..is that what u call love??i dont think so..

Answer 9

theres no cure for jealousy u have to just back off u cant always get jealous seeing the other guy with other girls , just dont look at him at all because if you dohe will probably be with someone else.... sry but theres just no cure

Answer 10

jelousy is a real bitc*...it is almost impossible to contro and is the reason for many crimes....it really stinks.
You said you know he doesn't like you so just try to move on, I know it is easier said than done but you need to get beyond this or it will eat you up...find a new guy, one who likes you for what and who you are, it will help you w/your self confidence and ego...just relax and let him go...it will be good for you...good luck.