Role Playing with the hubbie?

Question

O.K. First of all I know... odd place to be bringing this kinda thing up... O.K. I'm 18, I'm in school, I'm married, and I've been wanting to try "sexual role playing" but... my husband won't go for it... because he can't... O.K. you see I went to Pamela’s Secret" and got a "Sexy School Girl Outfit" and boy did I look good in it... well that was the problem, see I wanted to try S.R.P. he was going to be my "teacher" but all he could think about was getting "in my pants"... or skirt in this case... Here's my question... how can I teach my husband to "play with me"... Or... play along with me... how can I get him to stay in his role

Answer 1

OK, this might be more difficult than getting him to play along, but I would recommend you and he enroll yourselves in a acting class at a local community college. You can learn how to "act" and bring it along with you into the bedroom. After all that is what you want him to do, "ACT" like a teacher. You might have to offer some sort of "reward" to him if he continues going to the class to entice him. Plus it might be fun for the both of you, strengthen your relationship. I used to act all the time in college and high school and now I love role playing as an adult.

Answer 2

I'm with Liz on this one. Kink means you have to accept your partner no matter what it is, provided of course it doesn't go past some of your previously discussed hard limits. But even then, talking and doing are different things and fantasy is how people spice up their sex lives. Honestly though, if you wanted to do the hooker role play then yes, unless you wanted him to pretend he was a single man, completely forgetting that marriage he's in with you, he's going to role play as a married man paying a hooker for some hot no-strings sex. And getting upset about it isn't a good idea anyway. If you want to get into role playing then you have to assume the character your playing and not be disgusted by it. You didn't enjoy it because YOU imagined him cheating on you, instead of with you.

Answer 3

Since the point of it was for him to get into your skirt, it seems your desires could both be met here.

You just need to assume for the moment that he's a total moron, and tell him beforehand more explicitly what you want him to do, and for how long. You need to realize that for a lot of men, sexual role playing = sex in a costume with some dirty talk. If you need a longer set up, you need to let him know.

Answer 4

It could be that you had a role he didn't like (the school girl thing may have made feel like a molester-er). Have him come up with a story or just the premise for a story. then you two can try it and see if he doesn't like role playing or if he just didn't like the story you had in mind.

Answer 5

My husband won't get into that either. I tried. We both have to find something that we can both get into. Some people have a hard time separating themselves from reality.

Answer 6

This should be fun-PRACTICE. It's new to him too, remember. Young men are usually focused on the "main event", and have not learned that the build-up can enhance the experience.

Answer 7

I predict you will be divorced within 10 years.

Answer 8

Good Luck!! Guys have no imagination when it comes to sex. You'll have to just tell him to shut up and let you do the talking. He'll just have to be ready when you get ready.

Answer 9

Maybe he's just not into it... It's not for everyone. If he doesn't want to do it, don't force him.

Answer 10

tie him down and make him do it