My husband is a compulsive liar. His lies go from small to extravagant. He will even continue to lie to me when I can prove that he is lying. We have been together for five years. I didn't know about the lies until about 2 years ago. What, if anything, can I do to make the lies stop? How can I make this relationship work? Any advice or information will be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-11 10:07:02 · 15 answers · asked by Wendy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will not work as long as the lies continue! You will just be miserable as long as he does lie. First he must except the fact the he has a problem. Only HE can change this behavior, unfortunately you cant change it for him. Help him seek counseling to get to the bottom of why he feels the urge to lie like this. Hope it all works out for you both. Good luck to you
2006-12-11 10:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No! A relationship cannot work with a compulsive liar. I'm in the process of divorcing one. I tried to make my relationship work for 15 years; after nine years the lies got worse. How can a relationship work if you can't believe what your spouse says? I wish you luck and I hope you can find peace with whatever decision you make.
2006-12-11 18:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kyra 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i was in your same position. i dated a compulsive liar for 8 years. we then got married. we were only married for two years. i was young stupid and naive thinking it will get better eventually. he lied about everything...small or big. eventually it began to be a turn off. he was disgusting and i could not even stand the sight or thought of him. i filed for divorce and am so much happier. i would have to say its all on what you can take. i started to feel embarrassed by him because everyone knew that he was lieing and it made me look and feel like an asshole.
2006-12-11 19:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by dana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should read up on compulsive lying. I had a friend who was like that and I researched the subject. The findings were actually interesting but I remember it required a lot of work. It's a disorder, a psychological one.
2006-12-11 18:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by E! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will work if your husband admits he has a problem and is willing to get help to fix it.
Living with a compulsive liar means you're living and lie and how scary is that?
2006-12-11 18:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your marriage is doomed unless he stops lying. Usually compulsive liars lie for life.
2006-12-11 18:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell u once a lire always a lire he cant help it , and the only thing u can do if u want to make this work with him is learn to take a deep breath and relax he will change for sometime a very short time but not for long , good luck to u i feel Ur pain
2006-12-11 19:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by amal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to change him, only he can do that. So you will have to live with his constant lying or move on by ending this relationship.
The only control you have in life is over your own thoughts and actions.
2006-12-11 18:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the lies, but not anything I'd personally wish to live with, thank you very much.
2006-12-11 18:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
liars do not stop on their own. have him get some counceling. if he won't go.
live with it or leave.
2006-12-11 19:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋