do you wallow?

Question

in self pity or are you like me and play the glad game, e.g. if you fall and break a leg, to you say omg i have broken my leg or if like me do you think thank god i didn't break both legs lol

Answer 1

generally not big on wallowing but once in a while it doesn't hurt, people who try to be happy all the time will eventually breakdown in some small way, better to have ur sad moments and be stronger for them ...

Answer 2

Every once in a while, yes ~ by degrees. But it has to be in balance (otherwise it gets plain bloody boring).

There is nothing 'wrong' or bad about plain 'ol 'feeling sorry for yourself.' A broken leg! It's easy to see and understand how the victim might feel. But like having the flue, mostly it's an internal thing and no one can really tell how you really are feeling [HURTING]. So, just as long as it is within some form of balance, it's a perfectly valid way to feel.

As it happens, I ate my evening meal today, and 5 minutes later, I threw it up.

I did give praise that I was OK afterwards as the last time it happened I was actually in a hospital Accident & Emergency unit and was became unconscious (other than that event) for the next 4 weeks.

So, although I was not happy to lose the meal I had been looking forwards to, I'm pleased that there were no other adverse effects and that I'm still consciuous (at least, i think I am ...I hope!! WoW, This could be scary stuff!).

Sash [ who's now worried about his cookery skills...! ]

Answer 3

Sometimes both. If I'm feeling down and something happens, then I complain, and wallow like crazy. If I'm in an insanely good mood, then I try to find the silver lining. But if I broke my leg, I think I'd be clenching my fists and biting back from the reeling pain.

Answer 4

Ok, you will probably think this is crazy, but I have this personal relationship with Murphy and his law. He's stalking me. Every time something bad/unlucky happens to me, I start this tough girl dialogue with his spirit (only in my head, or under my breath so nobody hears) i say things like.... Is that all ya got? Well, F.U. Watch how I get out of this one. OR Can you top this one? and I'll find a way to overcome or get out of or recover from any situation. It's like a competition. I don't know what it is really,
all I know is that it helps me deal. I think it's kind of fun too. It forces me to use my head. So, I'd have to say nope, I'm not a wallower. Now that you know my secret, please don't send the white van containing muscular men in white coats carrying that really strappy jacket. I don't look good in white thanks to my friend Murf.

Answer 5

I think any illness should be milked so that my offspring have the chance to look after me for a change. This I deem to be quite fair because I have been looking after everyone for years! Bring on the wallowing....

Answer 6

Privately I wallow. I kick myself for every crappy thing I've ever done. Publicly, I present an optimistic outlook. You see, I believe in the optimism... it's just that sometimes I have to grieve in order to get there.

Answer 7

It's okay to wallow as long as you don't drown in your sorrow. The difference is when you wallow you are standing in a puddle but when your drowning in your sorrows you have then laid down in the puddle. I think you get the point.

Answer 8

take the positive way. There is nothing to gain of being wallowing. If you think positive, the good things will happen in your way.

Answer 9

Neither.
One option is depressive and leads nowhere, the other is manic and delusional.

If you fail or have bad luck, you just deal with it. You whine a bit, try to learn from your mistakes, and eventually move on.
But you don't get stuck depressed with it. And you don't lie to yourself and disguise failures as successes either.

To improve yourself, you need to learn from your mistakes, and that involves recognizing them as such and looking at reality with no bias.

Answer 10

I tend to wallow when I've had a rough time of it, but usually, I buck up and suck it all in.