We got a Christmas card from my cousin and his partner who are both gay. My mom said to me, "Did you know that they were a gay couple?" I said yes. I then said this would probably be a good time to tell you that I'm gay. My Dad didn't say anything and my Mom said that she was glad I shared it with her. I still don't feel totally relieved. What do you think?
2006-12-11 09:49:57 · 17 answers · asked by Hmmm... 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
good for you for opening up to them! give your dad some time...
2006-12-11 09:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that telling your parents something that big is going to take alot of time to set in. The questions and all the drama are probably going to take a while to show themselves, just because they need to come to grips with that a little bit themselves before they may feel comfotable talking about it. When my cousin came "out" to our family he expected everyone to be upset and he avoided all family occasions for awhile. When a friend of the family died and I went to pick him up from school he asked me what eveeryone thought and I told him flat out, we were all surprised but....We still love him and it doesn't matter what sexual preference he has. His families behind him. And Im guessing that since you didnt get outbursts of screaming or everyone completeky freaked out.....Your family will be behind you when they get a chance to become adjusted to the choices that you have made.
2006-12-11 09:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by crashqueen_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not feel real for a number of reasons. It may be because you have no indication from your father. It may be because you haven't told many other people. It may be because there's a little voice inside your head telling you that you are not yet relieved. I think you should give it time and see what happens with people and then it may feel more real.
2006-12-11 13:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great you told them. Your mom obviously already knew (mom's know these things) YOu Dad probably did too, but was probably a little shocked. It's hard for parents when their kids don' t grow upt ot have the life they envisioned for them. It may take a little time, but keep the lines of communication open.
2006-12-11 09:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a dad, and my son told me that....I Would PASS OUT. I'd love him the same, but would be devistated!
Give him some time. I know the man is heart broken, but it probably not ur fault. I didn't choose to be bi-curious, but look at me!
Trust me, it will fade away. Especially if they really love you, which im sure ur dad does
2006-12-11 09:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That took a lot of courage. I applaud you for that. I can only imagine that you will feel the "should I / shouldn't I" for a while. At least until you are comfortable with your parents knowing now. Honey, you be true to yourself, accept you for who you are. If you were my kid, I'd love you no matter what.
2006-12-11 09:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by fosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your dad some time it is hard to take when your child tell you that .. my Daugherty is that way with a first cousin so it is a double blow to though who did not suspect.. i figured it out when they were in elementary school.. i love her still the same
2006-12-11 10:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky.You are loved.Give your Dad some time to get used to the idea.
2006-12-11 09:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by eva b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dad will be the problem Discuss it over dinner
2006-12-11 09:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with your mom that it was a good thing that you told them that but maybe because your dad didn't say anything makes you feel uncomfortable
2006-12-11 09:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by alejandra611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋