You always hear people saying the opposite, but is it ever good? If any people with a background in Psych. could answer that would be splendid. Thanks!
2006-12-11 09:46:58 · 31 answers · asked by Moss B 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sure... There is a type of healing in the ability to feel grief, sadness, stuff like that. Once you begin to understand the locus of that pain, anguish, and the like, you can then deal with it. Then perhaps, you can finally let go, and let the healing be complete...
and, yes, 'locus' is a real word...
2006-12-11 09:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by corkscrewpirate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a degree in psych but I have to agree with Sarah h. It depends. I think it's normal and healthy as long as you can get yourself out of it and don't dwell on it. Everyone needs alittle sympathy now and then and if no one's there to give it to you then I see nothing wrong with giving some to yourself. Hope you feel better whatever your problem is.
2006-12-11 17:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No background in psych, just a 14 year old kid, but anyways; I think it's good to feell sorry for yourself when you have reason. If something horrible happens to you, you can't pretend like nothing is wrong and you have nothing to be angry or sad about. Obviously you shouldnt dwell on it to much, but it's unhealthy to be 2 positive (in my opinion)
2006-12-11 17:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by duck92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through some really tough times right now. I won't go into too much detail...
But for the first 2 weeks I felt really sorry for myself. Then I started to come out of it, and I feel better. It is a good time to self medicate, and that's what I did. It can be good for the mental health...
2006-12-11 17:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being unhappy can be a reasonable and normal behavior. There are times when you are genuinely unhappy, and have every right to be selfish with your emotions. For example, a close friend or family member dies, then it is entirely appropriate to feel 'sorry for yourself', because (and I know this from personal experience) it truly does suck.
However, when it becomes excessive. In situations where you have no cause to really be unhappy. Or, in situations when it becomes manipulative. Then it moves from the reasonable, into the unreasonable.
2006-12-11 17:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Wundt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If feeling sorry for yourself can inspire you to go out and make changes in your life that make you feel good about yourself, then I'd say yes. However, if we're talking about simply wallowing in self pity that serves no purpose and makes you feel like a helpless victim, than no.
2006-12-11 17:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by EnigmaGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to feel bad because you expected something to happen that can't happen now for an unexpected reason. But you shouldn't dwell on the negative. It is better to come up with a 'plan B', an alternative. What is the next best thing that you would like to see happen???
2006-12-11 17:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay. Not only is it okay but it so normal, everyone feels that way. You can't be hard on yourself all the time, you have got to give yourself a break. When my fiance died I felt so sorry for myself. At first I felt sorry for his loss then I felt sorry I was with him when he died. Today I felt sorry for myself that I don't have a masters yet. As long as you don't let it get in the way of you growing and being happy. We all need to take time out to nurture ourselves.
2006-12-11 17:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont have a background in psych, but i can tell you it is never good to feel sorry for yourself. it is a waste of time and not healthy for you. just pick yourself up and go on. you will lose alot of time you will never get back by feeling sorry for yourself.just dust yourself off and find something worthy of your time to do. merry christmas.
2006-12-11 17:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by chrystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self pity is a dangerous emotion because one can easily sink into it like quicksand. However, it is not necessarily a "bad" emotion because we all experience it from time to time. The important thing is to not dwell on it. It's best to just do it for a little while then move on.
2006-12-11 20:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋