Now we are out of that hell, but i have not been able to forget anything and i take it up on my husband thinking it was his fault and he let everything happen.His also cheated me after he said he will never have there contacts, and did contact them many times, he thinks it is my problem and i have to face it alone, he hasent told so but has that attitude.i am not able cope up with this. please help me.
2006-12-11 09:41:45 · 15 answers · asked by nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will have to leave the past in the past if not it's best to leave him otherwise you will be angry at your Husband.
2006-12-11 09:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to forget n move on if u cant do that then ur stuck there will be many more such instances in life where u might feel cheated by ur hubby but if u think from his viewpoint he might be feeling that u were wrong somewhere so best for u always is to forget n move on yeah but do have an open heart to heart talk with him regarding what u expect from him and what are his expectations.
2006-12-11 16:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by truth??? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
ur first line says u are out of hell - firstly was life with ur in- laws (ur husbands PARENTS!!) hellish for u and 'him'? it wud be unfair to comment on such matters becoz u havent mentioned what had happened. with that regards nothing can be said about whether u are blowing issues out of proportion or u are understatting them. it is always a good idea to introspect (look into ones own behavior, analyse and reach a logical conclusion). after u have done dat, u can try placing urslef in ur husbands shoes.
he was in contact with them, is that really aconecrn, he isnt asking you to be in tuch with them- are u propogating that he should stop talkin with his own parents?? would u have done that. and even if u wud have, that does not mean ur husband has to act the same way or feel the way u do. people differ - nomatter how similar they wud be in other matters - such things are bound to differ.
once u understand what is really the issue, dat his parents were nasty to u or it is teh fact that ur husband still keeps in touch with them. if its parents - then like i mentioned before u dont have to talk with them. if it is ur husband then help him understand that u feel that he is not standing by you , ur decision and u feel wronged or whatever it is tht u feel. let him know.
2006-12-11 16:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all why are you thinking of the past . your husband was born there and spend most important time of his life there that is the reason that he is still conected to them . and as you think that he thinks that its your problem , here i think you may be wrong becusse you are judging him on his behavior . dont do that he is your husband you both need to sit and talk to each other and find a way out and clear the things up .so that no more misunderstandings get in your beautiful and healthy married life . there are plenty of tensions in a married life as childrens , households , kitchen , daily budget and on and on . then why do you both add an extra pound to that . talk to him straight you dont need a appointement for that that's your right and cleear up your mind dear and enjoy life . good luck
2006-12-11 13:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very difficult to foget the past difficult things.
but if you are leaving hapily then you hav to forget the things that he has done and look for better tomorrow. but yo hav to tell him strictly he should not repeat the same. so slowly forget the things and make your life happy. there is no meaning in thinking about the old things. but if he is not changing then you wil hav think what step shud be taken next. whether to continue with him or not.
all the best.
2006-12-11 15:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by dracu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What upsets us most about others can leads us to a better understanding of ourselves. You look at the world as a reflection of ourselves. It is better change how you look at the situation than try to change it. Discover a dift way to look at it, a way in which you derive happiness for yourself and stop looking at it otherwise. If you are important to yourself be happy at least start trying..........
2006-12-11 11:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by dhanajai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not spend the rest of your life with a man who is not caring and does not care to protect you. You can seriously think about leaving him instead of leading an unhappy love less life.
2006-12-11 14:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh....i don't know what your trying to say. some thing about in laws and its all your husbands fault husband cheated you then he had contacts. think about what you want to say and repost your question.
2006-12-11 09:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear life is reakky very difficult and u need to get it sorted in a best way out
please try to understand ur husbands position and his problems and if u then find it so then u can do whatsoever seems best option to u
but please dnt make any such decision that ruins ur life
2006-12-11 21:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by sweetboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not willing to admit it and then stop it you will not be able to forget it. i hope you can get a good solution soon.
2006-12-11 10:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋