Is it bad to fantasize about hooking up with somebody except your hubby?

Question

Since my hubby introduced the idea to me about a MMF i've been having thoughts about me and a caucasian guy, Im a filipina by the way and have a filipino hubby also. am i going crazy and loosing it? I'm almost to the point that I wanna give it a try. Any takers? or should I just forget about it? I need enlightenment here

Answer 1

A fantasy is a fantasy and does not cross any boundaries. Once you violate that and "hook up" with someone else, you can consider that the end of your relationship with your husband. Things will never be the same. Believe me, because I've been there. Your mind begins playing tricks on you. You'll feel guilt, but since you've pushed the envelope, you'll want to do it again. You'll continue to feel even more guilty. It'll snowball on you. Rather confront it by investing that energy into your husband. Get nasty with him. Get kinky with him and drive him insane with your sexuality and creativity.

Answer 2

The idea seems simple. Play games or don't. But, it isn't that simple. Just the idea that you'd add another person to your relationship should be given a lot of thought, before you actually talked about it. There are so many bad possibilities that the reward doesn't seem worth the risk. What if you did- and one of you loved it, but the other hated it. What if the extra person decided they were in love? How do you keep it just "fun and games"? Emotions happen when sex happens. I'm getting to be an old fart, but I certainly understand wanting to spice things up. As long as you stick to just you two, pretty much anything goes. I suggest you avoid whips, chains, and all common explosives, but except for those, have fun. If a marriage NEEDS extra people, it needs a LOT of things instead of the extra person.

Answer 3

I think fantasizing is okay as long as it's just that... fantasizing.
I have a little crush on a guy I work with but there's no way in the world it would ever become more than a crush. Not as long as I'm married. But then again, I take my vows seriously.

Answer 4

Not bad if you keep it a fantasy. Bringing someone else into the bedroom will kill your relationship sooner or later. It takes away the intamasy in your relationship. Without intamasy, you just have a fu*ck buddy that lives with you.

Answer 5

My husband is also filipino and if he suggested something like that id smack him. I dont want to be with anyone else. Its up to you though if you like the idea your husband is into it go for it. Your a big girl make up your own mind.

Answer 6

What you have merely asked is why my spouse and that i've got an open marriage. no longer announcing that she continually will yet while there replaced into somebody she had to act out a delusion with she will with out concern of loosing her marriage to me....etc. etc. We see it as monitoring and controling what's permitted or no longer permitted in our dating. yet............ wait a minute, isn't that what maximum individuals do besides....... the permitted, no longer permitted area I advise.

Answer 7

Pardon me...but what is MMF? If he is suggesting adding having a guy to your relationsip...then he is sick - this is not about fantasy. Can it be that he is thinking about bringing YOU into his relationship with another guy he is with currently?

Answer 8

And I fantasizing to be with a Filipina girl...call me.

Answer 9

I guess it's okay to fantasize, but to do the real thing....Not really. Unless your husband agrees or something. And you have to remember the consequences once it happens and you make the decision to do this.

Answer 10

It's OK to fantasize, but that's where it should stop. No sense in being married if you can't be faithful.