I am on my 5th year of marriage and things have gotten pretty bad. We are constantly arguing and just not that happy. We are on our 3rd week of marriage counseling and have no kids.
So far the counseling has worked, but we have a long way to go. Recently, I've been thinking about divorce and thinking that it may actually be an option.
What are some of the reasons why you got a divorce?
2006-12-11 09:36:10 · 28 answers · asked by Summer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were no longer making each other happy after 15 years. I was physically attracted to other women and getting more and more frustrated because I was finding my ex-wife less and less attractive. Subconsciously, I was emotionally neglecting her and pushing her away. The only time I would pay any attention to her was when I wanted some sexual relief. I was miserable throughout the divorce process, but when it was finally over, I realized that we were only torturing each other trying to make the marriage work. No amount of therapy or marriage counseling could have made me feel as good as I do now!
2006-12-11 09:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see im in my 3rd year in being married and divorce has become an option for me. Many Good reasons to get a divorce are:
He Lies, He Cheats, He keeps secrets, or just doesnt show you the love you deserve to have. I tried everything including a sit down and talking with my wife but nothing works sometimes people rush into marriage which is my case and it ends up being a miserable experience for both husband and wife. Sometimes its worth it to just say " i love you, but things arent working and being that we always argue, or were always unhappy things may just be better if we seperated" I mean who knows maybe down the line when both people mature things will be easier,
Believe me i live by this rule and maybe ill get broken by it or maybe it will work but i believe Once both people in the marriage figure out what it is they realy want from a marriage and and only then will you two be happy. Take my advice because although i have not been married aslong as you im right on your tail and the same things your going through im going through with my wife, I know how you feel think about what im telling you and what others will tell you, Yeah its ok to try and save a marriage true, for moral standards thats typically what people think should be the right option but think clearly, there not the ones having to live with your spouce you are! you have to happy with where your going with your marriage if your not then why stay in it? Simple to the point. Good luck - If you need any other advice your more than welcome to email me at brigidog1984@yahoo.com Seems we both need friends to talk to :-)
2006-12-11 17:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by brigidog1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason I got divorced was my ex-husband had an illness. Not the sort of illness you might be thinking of but he was and probably still is an alcoholic. Not that I didn't want to stay with him, he filed twice and after the second filing I couldn't fight it anymore. The thing about counseling, I went to counseling by myself and I was forewarned I may end up divorced anyway because I changed with the counseling. I did not want a divorce but I had run out of options and I didn't want to keep fighting and trying to make someone love me who couldn't.
P.S. Good luck
2006-12-11 17:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by already_enuff_spice_in_this 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because my ex-wife decided unilaterally to have an affair and refuse counselling.
I believe if two people actually comitt to working on the issues, and all marriages will have issues, there is nothing that cannot be resolved.
But it only takes one to divorce.
If the counselling is working, then why consider divorce.
As painful as the marriage and the affair was, divorce was by far the worst pain I've ever experienced, and I've lost loved ones and survived cancer.
2006-12-11 17:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I got a divorce because my ex- was an alcoholic and he loved his alcohol more than he ever loved me or the kids.
And also, because the alcohol made him become abusive mentally and physically...and when he wasn't drinking, he was even worse!!
Also, he cheated on me several times and I was tired of it!!
I kicked him out of my home and my life...just one day before my 30th Birthday!!
It was the best thing that I ever did!!
I have been divorced for 8 years now...and although being a single mom is very hard sometimes....
being a married woman to an alcoholic, cheater and self-centered childish boy...was even harder!!
I would rather be alone and on my own...than to be married and miserable!!
2006-12-11 18:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by angelbeliever114 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont love eachother anymore... ???
If not, then thats a def sign to get a divorce. If you 2 still love eachother, and are IN love, stick with counseling and go from there.
If it doesnt work out with counseling and things get worse, try separating first...spend some time away from eachother and see it thats what you want.
2006-12-11 17:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he was a crabby self centered a**hole who was into emotional (not physical) abuse. It made him feel bigger by putting me down in front others. He didn't like my friends, OR my family and wouldn't have anything to do with any of them. He resented the time I spent with them. Divorcing him was the best thing I ever did. I got a terrific one the second time around and we've been married for 26 years.
2006-12-11 17:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love this guy then keep on going to marriage counseling...but if you fell out of love then this is the time for a divorce ,,,remember you don't have kids to attached to you....my husband cheated on me and i don't give second chances,,, sometimes it's just a waste of time to deal with a cheater....
2006-12-11 17:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
60% of all marraiges end in divorce these days, of the 40% left, how many are cheating, unhappy, or staying together for the kids or tax pourposes? Staggering isn't it! You're not alone. people just grow apart.
2006-12-11 17:42:45 · answer #9 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 17 years, and never really doubted we'd be married until one of us died. Then, things got like a live taping of a long Jerry Springer show. My reasons? Wife got pregnant- after I was sterile, had abortion (secretly) and kept seeing lover. She slept with my brother.
2006-12-11 18:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋