Was this a double life?

Question

When I was in school I attended a tech program during the latter part of the day.
I stopped talking to people in the regular school.
After I graduated, people thought that I did not talk to anyone and I became labeled as a loner. I felt very confused about my identity.
Do you think that this was a double life.
Even years later I couldnt believe that I did not talk to anyone in the school. I had totally shut everyone out.
I was afraid to go anywhere where I would see anyone from the school and became very embarrased about what I did.

Answer 1

The first answerer was just reflecting her own personality, so dont worry about her...I agree with the second person who answered.....I dont think I can enhance on what she has said, except to say that you should not be a victim to what other people think of you. You should not be embarrassed about what you did, you obviously didnt realise you were doing it,....so it must not have been a very big deal for you. It was obviously a big deal to a few poeple, but honestly, not everyone in the school would think that...just a few. It doesnt matter what people think about you. It only matters how you think about yourself. It doesnt matter what you do or say in this life there will always be people who wont like you and are ready to say nasty things to upset you....thats life. Just use your education to get the best possible job you can and you will find people will warm to you for who you are. As we get older, we become more tolerant. You possibly could be a lot more mature than girls your own age, and possibly you see your future in a very positive light and want to work towards making your future a very good one. Maybe you are not into the antics of school kids and their taunts....hey, thats a good thing. You are a individual, and people can label you anything they like, but it doesnt mean to say its the truth. You know what the truth is, but youre just letting the opinions of others confuse you.....let it go, concentrate on you and your goals...everything will work out.

Answer 2

Gosh that other answer was uncalled for...anyway! I don't think it's a double life, you were just going through a phase. I know I get like this when I'm trying something new and I feel the need to concentrate or I just want to be alone with my thoughts. There's nothing wrong with it, you'll come out it and start becoming more social when you are ready. In the meantime, enjoy your education, you're doing something great with your life.

Answer 3

I can relate in the same manner. I moved to Tennessee in 9th grade and never really contacted any of my friends in Ohio, but vice versa once I moved home after school. Me and my inflictive personality left me feeling like I had rather abandoned them. I even moved back to Tennessee after a year for feeling like I had left something behind. When in fact, I left nothing but the pain derived there. We are living multiple lives, and we need to find a way for these lives to collide in a suitable manner or they can leave us feeling devided. Just accept your friends as your friends and your best friends should be destinguishable.

Answer 4

Social anxiety is an experience of fear, apprehension or worry regarding social situations and being evaluated by others. People vary in how often they experience anxiety in this way or in which kinds of situations. Anxiety about public speaking, performance, or interviews is common.

Social anxiety disorder, also referred to clinically as social phobia, is a psychiatric anxiety disorder involving overwhelming anxiety and excessive self-consciousness in everyday social situations. People experiencing social anxiety often have a persistent, intense, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others and being embarrassed or humiliated by their own actions. Often the triggering social stimulus is a perceived or actual scrutiny by others. Their fear may be so severe that it significantly impairs their work, school, social life, and other activities. While many people experiencing social anxiety recognize that their fear of being around people may be excessive or unreasonable, they encounter considerable difficulty overcoming it. This differs from shyness, in that the person is functionally debilitated and avoids such anxiety provoking situations. At the same time, a person with social anxiety may only feel the fear during certain situations. For example, an actor or singer may feel fine on stage, but afraid of social situations in everyday life.

Social anxiety is often part of only a certain situation, such as a fear of speaking in formal or informal situations, or eating, or writing in front of others – or, in its most severe form, may be so broad that a person experiences symptoms almost anytime they are around other people. Many people have the specific fear of public speaking, called glossophobia. In this case, the fear is of doing or saying something which may cause embarrassment. Approximately 13.3% of the general population will experience social phobia at some point in their lifetime according to the highest estimate; with the male to female ratio being 1.4:1.0, respectively. Physical symptoms often accompany social anxiety, and include blushing, profuse sweating (hyperhidrosis), trembling, nausea, and stammering. Panic attacks may also occur under intense fear and discomfort. An early diagnosis helps in minimizing the symptoms and the development of additional problems such as depression. Some sufferers may use alcohol or drugs to reduce fears and inhibitions at social events.

A person with the disorder may be treated with psychotherapy, medication, or both. Research has shown cognitive behavior therapy, whether individually or in a group, to be effective in treating social phobia. The cognitive and behavioral components seek to change thinking patterns and physical reactions to anxious situations. Prescribed medication includes a class of antidepressants called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).

Attention given to social anxiety disorder has significantly increased since 1999 with the approval and marketing of drugs for its treatment.

Answer 5

Just to let you know that i aggree with Jacinda 100%.

Answer 6

pray and talk