I am good friends with my neighbor of 5 years. We've been out to clubs together a few times, loaned each other money on occasion, basically have had each others back from day one. My problem is we both are single parents with 4 children each, roughly around the same age. I teach my children to respect others and to pick thier battles, stay out of messy he-siad, she-said drama. However her children fight constantly and start alot of mess. Initially in the begining our children got along, but as time has passed, her teachings to her children clash with how I raise my kids, which means that our children clash. While my children are no punks, I tell them to walk away unless provoked. Her children like to instigate situations and provoke to give them a reason to fight. She condones at times, I don't. As parents of these children, it puts us in the middle because we are good friends. I'm ready to say good-bye to the friendship because of her parenting techniques. What do you think
2006-12-11 09:28:27 · 8 answers · asked by Cherry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your number one priority is to be a good mother and protect your children. If you feel like your children are in a situation you don't want them, then take them out. You don't want your kids hanging out with kids just to hang out. They will learn all kinds of things and if it can be prevented, then prevent it. As far as your friendship, if you don't want to lose your friendship but don't want the kids around each other, than talk to your friend and tell her you know she is doing the best she can but I noticed the kids are not getting along like they used to and maybe we should give our kids a little break from each other. spend time with your friend when the kids are sleeping or when you have a sitter. You don't have to tell her why because that is a touchy subject and there really isn't a good way to tell a single mother that her kids behavior is negatively affecting your kids. Just say they need a nice long break. Maybe that is all they need. Good Luck and good job for looking out for your kids best interest
2006-12-11 12:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should sit her down and talk to her . and let you know how you feel. tell her that you don't like some of the things that her children does to yours, and you are sorry for saying that but its the truth. be honest with her. leave it up to her. from now on i would be friends but don't hang out together or do anything with the children toghether unless things change. but you can always say hi and that. exspecially since you are neighbors. good luck.
2006-12-11 09:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing good, just stick with it. You still want your children to be raised right and it sounds like you are doing a great job.
2006-12-11 09:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont walk away, run away. She is not fit company for friendship or for parenting.
Set a good example for your kids and bring responsible friends into your life.
It is far more likely that your kids will pick similar people to whom you do.
2006-12-11 09:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. Anyway the two of you can still be friends and just not have your kids hang out together?
2006-12-11 09:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can learn to adapt to the situation of her raising and she will hAve too. work out the best way to solve this prroblem
2006-12-11 09:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by tritran5555(poetri) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From look at all your questions,you should change your avatar name to "the_walk_away_queen"(=
2006-12-11 09:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you really have to ask this question on "Marriage and Divorce"????
2006-12-11 09:35:45 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋