I am pregnant with my second baby and have a five month old daughter. When this baby is born they will be 11 months apart. I didnt plan for the second baby but I am really worried I wont love this new baby as much as my first baby. How can I provide them with the same love when they are both so young and still babies and need their needs met?
2006-12-11 09:07:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You will love them both the same. I know, I have two of my own.
2006-12-11 09:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dulcinea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its weird. Most parents worry about the same thing but when the new baby is born your fears will melt away and you will find a way for it to work. It will be different this time around becaue you have two little ones wanting your attention but as far as love goes: a parent has an infinite amount of love to give whether you have 1 child or 10. Good Luck and Congrats
2006-12-11 17:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get your first look at this new baby you will remember exactly what you felt with your first coz you will be feeling it all over again. You would be surprised at how much love you have to give. Somedays you will wonder if there is a limit to maternal feelings. You will love them both the same amount its just the way you love them that will be different. I have 2 boys, 1 is a rambunctous always bruised and skinned up boy who i love rough play with. The other is a loving, quiet, but funny boy who i love to sit quietly doing something with. The one i love the most is whichever one is the most well behaved at the time :-). Usually neither but sometimes both.
2006-12-14 09:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Big red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe you are a good mother already to your first child and have taken care of his/her needs rather well, then when the second child comes, you should not have any problems with whether or not you will be able to care for that child as much as you do for your first child. Just keep in mind that YOU and only you are the one bringing this next child into the world. Its your job to introduce him/her to love, to nourishment, even to his/her older brother/sister. It is a blessing to be able to hold a baby for 9 months and then be able to love it. Some people never get the chance to EVER do that. So be happy and excited for your next child and know that you will be able to show love equally to both children. I hope this helps a little. Good luck and congradulations on your next child!!!!!!
2006-12-11 17:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by justmeandsoccer88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I have 5 kids and with every one of them I worried about how I would treat each of them differently. It will come to you and you will love them both the same. You will just have to learn to divide your time with them cause the baby will need a lot of your attention and the other one will crave a lot of your attention. The oldest will even do things to get your attention like being mean to the baby sometimes but you just have to learn to have patience with them and teach daughter not to do mean things to the baby and also one thing that helped me was even though your daughter will be so young make her feel like you need her to help with the baby. She won't feel so left out that way.
2006-12-11 17:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position a 11 mon. boy and 6 mon. preg with a girl. I'm concerned too but not that i won't love them both the same. I'm concerned i won't have any hair left after treable twos . Don't worry the first baby that stold your heart at first sight will be repeated for the second GOOD LUCK CONGRATS I HOPE ALL GOES WELL!!!!!
2006-12-11 17:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will love them both! and you will learn to appriciate them differently! All my children are my world and each of them are as different as they come! Our hearts are big enough to love them all! I appreciate and adore my oldest childs gift of looking at the world and seeing it differently than me. She always finds good in people and that always makes me smile. She did give me a rough time for a while but boy has it made her smart to the world around her! My son is quiet and always has a kind word for people but can be as stubborn as they come! Which I have learned can be a good thing! He has solid views about things and back them up in a good debate! My little one is caring with animals and hugs everyone all the time. She detailed orientated and is extremely focused! I think you will find things about each kid that will make your heart smile and cant be replaced by anything else. Dont worry about this, your wasting your time. You sound like a fantastic mother!
2006-12-11 17:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you will love them both exactly the same,but you will love certain things about each child as an individual,but never as in one more than the other.Its not easy to balance your time my children are 11 months apart(unplanned as well),the first few month weren't the easiest,but I wouldn't change it for the world.They get along great well most of the time,they potty trained together,which was easy on me...and they are never bored!
2006-12-11 17:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very rare that a parent can love one child more than another. Of course, you will probably have one that you prefer over the other, that is quite common, although nobody really talks about it. But you'll have one kid that never gets in trouble and always ges good grades, etc. And the other one will be a hell-raiser. But you will probably love them both the same.
2006-12-11 17:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although the first born will always hold a special place in your heart you will love them both the same.
2006-12-11 17:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋