My friend needs my help, I don't know what to do!?

Question

My friend is 16 and just told me she slept with her boyfriend.. you know what I mean. She doesn't want to tell her mom and doesn't want me to tell anyone else. I don't live near her at all, what should I say to her? I really have no idea.. =(

She just told me they didn't use protection, btw.. =(

she told me she's afraid to tell her mom. should i encouragre her to? how?

Answer 1

just let her know that you are always there to listen to her problems and talk and that she can trust you

Answer 2

Uhmmm.... mixed messages here.....

She has just consumated her relationship with her boyfriend (in some cultures that would mean they are married.... probably not yours, but in many cases its not a bad deal).

She of course does not need to tell her mom unless....

She doesn't need you to tell anyone.... unless.....

She doesn't need help..... unless....

If however she needs help because the "sleeping" was not her idea (rape) then she needs help, needs you to call her mom for her so that she can get the medical and emotional help she needs.

However if it was with mutual consent, then all you can do is to remind her to use protection, and support her the best way you know how.

Answer 3

What can you say? not much. She has made a very irresponsible decision and she may pay big time for it. You might want to hear her out on why she made the decision and reenforce the idea that she is playing with fire. All too often girls want to hear the words I love you and when they do they give sex as a trade. . . bad choice. You need to encourage her to get tested for pregnancy and STDs. That may sound harsh but there is no safe sex even with "protection".

Answer 4

Well you don't need to tell her mom unless it wasn't consentual and she's reaching out for help. So if it was something that she wanted to do then all you can do is let her know you are there for her to talk to and remind her to use protection...

P.S. she should also pay a visit to the gyno make sure everything is peachy!
Good Luck!

Answer 5

If you love your friend, tell her to stop! This is wrong and harmful, and it will ruin her life even if neither of you realize it now. Later on, she'll be very emotionally damaged. But support her if she does get heartbroken and let her know you are there for her. It is her life, and you won't be able to erase or avoid her mistakes, but let her know that she should really think about what she's doing and the potential consequences.

Good luck!

Answer 6

ask her i they used protection and if no then she should tell her mom because if she is going to have sex then she needs to be the adult she is acting like and get on some type of birth control i don`t mean to sound rude about it but she could be in a place she dose not want to be real quick if she don`t try to be more reasonable good luck she is lucky to have a friend like you

Answer 7

There's nothing you can really do to help. These days, 16 is a common age when people have sex so just tell her to use protection.

Answer 8

There is a type of shot that you can take to risk the chances of getting this disease that causes cancer i think its called hpv. Talk with her to use protection and to just listen to what she has to say about it dont be really annoyed about it or she will just ignore you. Be kind and listen to what she has to say and give her some good explanations on what to do.

Answer 9

unprotected sex..thats bad!
you should definetly tell someone.
i mean the yeast infections and everything...
if your a REAL friend you would tell someone.
i mean i pulled the fire alarm for no reason, the fire department came and ****.
they only wanted the best for me, so they told a teacher.
i was furious, but i'm getting better now.

Answer 10

Make sure she is Ok. Listen to her and tell her to have protected sex.