I just found out i am pregnant. im going to go to the dr in a couple of days. should i wait to tell our families after christmas? or should we just go ahead and do it? im nervous...but i dont think its sunk in yet. i took the first pregnancy test earlier today and two more after that. all three positive. girls, a little advice. dont rely on the morning after pill. its only 85 percent effective and well, look how effective it was for me!
2006-12-11 09:02:54 · 15 answers · asked by Molly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Most girls wait until their second trimester before telling people they're pregnant. The reason being is that the chances of a miscarriage reduce dramatically after the first trimester. But telling friends and telling parents are different things. Unless your not close to your families at all, I would recomend you tell them as soon as possible. It good to have parents involved for medical, financial, and emotional support. I would say Christmas is a good time to break the news, it's enough time to wrap your head around the situation. But remember, if you don't feel like telling them at Christmas, then don't. There's no rush, do it when you feel confortable.
Also, unless you are super close with your extended family (aunts, uncles, cousins etc.) or they'll find out anyway, hold off telling them until after the first trimester. You don't need added pressure at this time.
Best of luck.
2006-12-11 10:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to tell someone, maybe just go as far as telling your parents and your best friend(s). I tried not to tell my parents, but I ended up telling them only because I didn't know what I could eat at a dinner (I wasn't reading anything about what I could eat at the time) and I wanted to know it was ok.
I felt better telling my parents for some moral support besides my husband knowing. It's especially hard to explain to ppl when you have horrible morning sickness and still haven't reached the 12 week mark.
I held out on telling too many ppl just in case something happened too.
The choice is yours. Hope your pregnancy goes well.
2006-12-11 17:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by lyssaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually best to wait until you hit the 12 week mark. That is when the risk of miscarriage goes down to around 2%. I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant the first time and told everyone, but ended up losing the baby 5 weeks later.
2006-12-11 17:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from personal experience if you don't know or think that they aren't going to react well to it you should probably wait until you know that the pregnancy is going to stick. i made the mistake this summer of telling my parents when i was only 6 weeks along and having to go through all the disappointment that they had in me because I'm not out of college yet and then i ended up losing the baby. to me i would have preferred to have not told them and dealt with this on my own than have them know. it lead to a lot of unneeded drama between my parents and my boyfriend. if you think they will be happy about it then go on ahead. do it when you feel is right and things will work out in the end. best of luck even if you didn't want the baby you will change your mind once you have it. having a baby changes everything!!
2006-12-11 20:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by kokopuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should at least wait until you've had a chance to get used to the idea yourself before you tell your family. Just do it when you feel comfortable. Some people say to wait until 12 weeks because of the risk of miscarriage, but if that happens you might want family and good friends to know anyway to help you through it.
2006-12-11 17:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by josi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats happening to you...is a gift from God. Don't think of this as something bad. Becuz God doesn't make mistakes. Obviously He wants you to have this baby. Tell your familys when you are ready but don't wait too long. I'd tell him after your first appointment unless you are close to your mother. Becuz they will probably do a sono the first time she might wanna be there.
2006-12-11 17:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kimi is 31 weeks 1/7 w/#2! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant too.. 5 weeks.and I'm 22.. I don't know how to tell my parents...but my friend told me to give them a Christmas card and put "Merry Christmas Grandma and Grandpa"... but it's totally up to you... I'm thinking of waiting cause the first trimester are the hardest.. 20% of all pregnancies lead to miscarriages.. wait till 13 weeks.. the chances are less...
2006-12-11 17:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by ~mother of 2 beautiful girls~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go to the doctors first, and give yourself a good moment to accept it and be happy and excited, then when everyone bombards you with questions like, 'So how far along are you ' Are you excited ' you can answer all of them.
And everyone will get suss over christmas when your not drinking.
So my advice would be to go to the doctors and tell them anytime between now and christmas.
2006-12-11 17:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Have a baby. . . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously you are not thrilled about it. I just found out that I am pregnant last week and I am so excited. But I am waiting to tell everyone until i get past the 3 month hump to make sure that I won't miscarry.....again.
2006-12-11 17:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by angel32984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until after christmas just incase something goes wrong. maybe tell a trusty friend who will keep quiet.
enjoy your last christmas with no kids ( i am even though i really want a child)
next year will be a time for babies and nappies and everything else.
2006-12-11 17:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋