came up to me while i was putting up the laundry, came up to me and told me that i was a strong woman and that he loved me so much and that he was lucky. and then hugged and kissed me. I then asked him what he meant by "you are a strong woman", and he said to just know that i am and he loves me for that. I am lost, what does that all mean?
2006-12-11 09:01:14 · 22 answers · asked by DDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he means you have a strong faith, or that you are constant and he is leaning on you emotionally more than you realize.
Or maybe you can lift three wet loads of laundry and he is afraid of your bulging biceps........
I would accept it as a compliment!
Peace!
2006-12-11 09:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not wish to be a naysayer, only honest.
I read your last post about accusing him of cheating. Tying it into this question, (unless you were asking for someone else) from personal experience, getting comments like that out of the blue usually means something is up...that is unless he does it all the time. Like another reader said, he probably is not referring to your big muscles. You said in your other post that you accuse him of cheating...maybe you do you because if you listen to your intuition you know its true. I knew it was true and it took me a while to catch him, but I did. And even though it hurt to leave him, I am much better off.
Now I know all those "praises and compliments" were just his way of saying..."you are so strong because you know I am lying and have not left me yet".
He cannot tell you why you are "strong" because then he would have to tell you something he does not wish to. If you listen to your gut...what does it tell you? My husband was "lucky" because he was having his cake and eating it too.
We are not STRONG women if we cannot leave a bad situation; and he might not leave for the same reasons you do not: a child. I am blessed that we had none. If you stay for your child then you are "playing house" and he may be doing the same. Pride gets in the way of admitting many things sometimes.
And, yes counseling might help, but if he wants to be left alone chances are he will participate only superficially. It only works if both parties are honest. If not the solutions are only based on lies. I would first step back and take a good look at your life before and after marriage...were there red flags before? Did your heart ever skip a beat. If so, and he still insists he is not cheating, I would call a PI or do some snooping on your own. My guy was crafty. All those "signs of a cheating spouse" never fit him. But he managed it. I caught him after a while by having a friend follow him after work. I hate that we cannot trust those we love. But I also believe that if we stand up and just leave men who do not honor their vows, then we pave the way for a more honest relationship. We all deserve to be honored, especially mothers.
Best wishes my dear. You will have a full and happy life even if you are not married. Mine has been wonderful!
2006-12-12 03:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by sunbeyondthemtn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that he meant you were physically strong and muscly. He probably meant that you are strong emotionally and that after all you've been through he admires your strength. Maybe some woman at work broke all to pieces over nothing and he's grateful that you aren't that way. Just take the compliment and the warm squishy feelings that come from it and be content. There is nothing under it to be suspicious of.
2006-12-11 17:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still rock his world. Way to go and just appreciate him verbalizing it. So many men and husbands do not speak up. You are a lucky woman.
2006-12-11 17:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that when a husband does that it means one of two things.He did something he is about to be caught over.Or like in my husbands case it just means that he realizes what he has at home.Mine usually does this after he has had to listen to one of his friends complaining about their wife's or girlfriends.But if it really bothers you just ask him nicely if he is sure everything is o.k..Ask and then drop it if you badger him he will not want to compliment you anymore for fear of interrogation.
2006-12-11 17:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why try to figure this out? He obviously was expressing a warm emotion for you in his manly way. He may not have used the term you wanted to hear, but I think it would be wise to just accept his offer of expressing love to you and say, "thanks honey." If you bug him to try to explain what he meant, it might be a while before he gives you another compliment.
2006-12-11 17:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by larry r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...unless you powerlift I'm sure he means strong as in the moral fiber sense of the word. he can't mean smarts-wise because this question IS a no-brainer you know.
2006-12-11 17:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the compliment, don't read into it. Men aren't the most articulate creatures sometimes. I wish my husband would do this sometimes. Consider yourself lucky.
2006-12-11 17:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means just what he said it does. Don't try to analyze it. Just take it as a compliment.
2006-12-11 17:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by marchhare57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is still in love with you. If I were in your shoes I would make sure to repay the favor with a little extra "attention". ;-)
2006-12-11 17:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋