Financially we do ok. We have to manage our money but we live well. We have three kids and we spent about $200 each on them for X-mas. I just spent $400 on a family ring for my wife. Part of me feels bad because I spent more on her than each of them. Is there anything wrong with this?
2006-12-11 08:47:31 · 35 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not at all!!!! Especially if your kids are younger, you can consider it a gift from all of you to her :)
2006-12-11 08:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out you and your wife there would be no kids. Your relationship to her should come first. I think it is admirable.
Kids today need to know that not everything is about them. I think $200 is a lot although I could never afford it.
The ring well that was my gift last year and if she is like me she will cry. The best gift I could have ever gotten. You are a very generous and loving man Merry Christmas
2006-12-11 08:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by lpdecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what i think. Its not about the amount of money that you spend on gifts its about the thought the heart and the effort you put into getting the gift. I dont think your kids would know or even care if spend 50 bucks on them. there mom works very hard being a mom and a wife and from time to time she deserves to be treated very special. I think your a really good guy and your wife and kids are very very lucky to have you. I didnt know guys like you still existed. Dont feel bad your wife is going to love her gift and your kids are going to be so excited. besides dont you know there going to get tons of more gifts from grandparents and other family members and 200 bucks a peice is more than what we ever got growing up. good job. merry xmas to you and your whole family.
2006-12-11 08:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there isn't anything wrong with that! when your kids get older, you'll probably spend more money on each of them. you shouldn't feel bad because this is your wife that you're talking about and it's a family ring. you love her and you love your kids. don't feel bad because you spent more money on your wife than your kids. you should feel proud that they will all be happy. it's a win win situation. plus, they're just your kids! you really don't need to spend that much money on them. but you love them and you want what's best for them. if they're happy, and if your wife is happy then everything is all good!
Merry Christmas!
---mrs ♥ nguyen---
2006-12-11 08:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by JAZZiEEBOO♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is to come first in your relationship with your family. All too often the kids come first. And when the kids are grown, the parents find they don't know each other. Treat your wife like a queen -- even if it means spending a little extra on her.
To two of you are to be as one.
2006-12-11 09:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Charlie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a thing. My dad sometimes got my mom really nice gifts at the holidays, and even as a little kid I never once considered the cost vs. what I had received. On the contrary, I always thought it was sweet and my mom deserved it.
ps: isn't a family ring the one with everyone's birthstones in it? Won't your kids feel good seeing a stone representing each of them on her finger?
2006-12-11 08:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the difference how much you spent on gifts, as long as you got something that made each one of them happy?
You should only feel bad if you know you got some sh1tty gifts that these people would not like.
2006-12-11 09:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You did a fabulous thing. You got her something you wanted her to have and hang the cost. Your wife should be the most important person in your life. The kids are next. If they are young, their toys cost less than jewelry. Let the guilt go. You did great.
2006-12-11 08:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's not about the amount of money you spend on any loved one...it's all about the thought you put into the gift. You bought her something beautiful, don't feel guilty about it, be happy for the fact that you took the time and effort into such a nice gift.
2006-12-11 08:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I mean, I know it sounds corny, but it's not about the money. If you got the kids and your wife something you think they'll really like, it doesn't matter how much those things cost. Obviously, grown ups like more grown up things and grown up things, like jewelry, are generally more expensive than toys or games or stuff that kids like. So I, at least, think it's fine. Happy holidays!
2006-12-11 08:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh Hello she IS your wife.
You r supposed to love and nuture her.
Its great that you give good stuff 4 ur kids but i mean give the woman a break. She needs that lil kick in the but to show her shes doing a good job and heres a Little reward
or maybe big
but give her and u a break
2006-12-11 08:51:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋