every one says about 19 but im not sure when to have my kid!!! plez help
2006-12-11 08:41:37 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
i would say when you are in a relationship that you feel is secure (no one can know for sure, but your instinct will tell you if things are going well), when you are financially ready atleast to be able to afford the basics of life ,,,, and when you feel you have experienced the things as a single person that you wished to,,,,,, children are an 18 + year commitment,,, and especially the first 14 or 15 years,,,,,,i think for most, 19 is rather young, but its what your heart feels,,,,,,,just dont have one, then feel you want your freedom to be going out alot,,, living the lateteen early 20's regular lifestyle , because that is just not the reality of it....
2006-12-11 08:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your pregnant and overdue? Sorry just kidding...
Actually many people used to have their children between the ages of 20-24. Nowadays, people wait even into their 30's.
It is really up to you. If you are mature and have the means to care for a baby (financially and emotionally), then the age that you have the child is relatively unimportant.
I would recommend that you wait until you are twenty to make the decision, however. You may believe that you are an adult and are ready, but a baby is a big responsibility.
Before you make that decision, I would strongly recommend you try babysitting a young child for a weekend, or ask around of other young mothers who are willing to speak with you frankly about their pregnancies and their goals in life.
By the way, if you have to ask this question and are depending on other people to tell you when you should have a baby, you are probably not ready...You already know that in your head, but perhaps your heart was trying to convince you otherwise.
2006-12-11 16:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by SteveN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time to have a baby is when God gives you one. However, it's not a good idea to try for one at the age of 19. At 19, you're still a kid yourself, and there are a lot of things you won't be able to do any more once you've started having kids. Ideally, (I think) mid to late twenties is best. People are having kids much later these days, but if you wait too long, you'll be collecting social security when your kid gets out of high school, and that's not good either. You want to still be young enough to have "fun" after the kids are grown and gone.
2006-12-11 16:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion 19 is way to early. I think the time frame is very individual. Some people have them @ 18-19 and are very happy and good parents. i still think there is way to much to do, gettin and education, starting a carreer, just life @ 19. But lets face iteveryone is different, and there will be no perfect time. There is always something not quite right, money, school, new job...
2006-12-11 16:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by tera_duke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
19 is too young in my book (not to say 19 yos can't be good parents). When you are financially and emotionally capable of caring for a child is the top criterion. Other than that, wait until you've completed college and gotten somewhat settled. Say 25-26.
2006-12-11 16:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best time to have kids is when you are financially and emotionally stable.....I know this my sound a little vague....But the exact age varies with people....
Personally, I am 19 and I am no where near ready.....Where as my best friends mom had her when she was 18 years old....
You should always remember that kids need a lot of attention and responsibility.....
2006-12-11 16:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Shlooby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in your 30's and working, have had a chance to mature, travel, and have a little money saved. Raising a kid is incredibly expensive. Do you have a home? Also, it is wise to have a partner/hubby to share the experience with. Solo diapering isn't fun or glamorous!
If you are 19, please wait. Live your life. You'll be glad you did. Good luck, Honey!
2006-12-11 16:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by SensiblySmart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 is really young. What's the rush? Your biological clock will be ticking way into your 30's. Get yourself a secure future financially, get married, and then start a family. I didn't have my first baby until I was 30 and I am so glad that I waited!
2006-12-11 16:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best time, in my opinion is when you are married and you know you and your spouse are both ready for a baby.
Make sure you are financially stable and ready to care for another human being before you bring one into the world.
Age doesn't matter, what's important is whether or not you are ready for a child.
2006-12-11 16:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Desiree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best time to have a baby would to be when you are married and when you know you have enough time to spend with it and care for it. Lets say you are still in colledge and you get preganat you will probably have to quit school to spend time with the baby. But it is your choice when to have a baby not anyone eles.
2006-12-11 16:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by blondebeauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋