my friend is a 22 yr old virgin and i have tried hooking him up and the girls were willing but he was not ! he is acting scared ..let me remind you he is about 6'2 200 lbs hes mildly attractive..so whats wrong? do you think he could be gay?
2006-12-11 08:39:02 · 26 answers · asked by wifeytype 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
perhaps he needs lessons
2006-12-11 08:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by PETER J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not weird. Maybe uncommon, but not even that nowadays. I guess it's too late for you to stop lying about it to your friends or they'll really make fun of you, but no, it's not weird. There's a lot of diseases and nasty things out there, and I think more guys are going the celibate route, whether by choice or not. I know a guy that's almost 35 and still hasn't had a real girlfriend and is still a virgin. He's a really quiet guy that just doesn't socialize well with girls. If that's your problem, too, then just work on it. Or you could go the pay-for-pleasure route at the Bunny Ranch in Nevada .. just be sure to wear a condom!
2016-05-23 06:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a distinct possibility. Nevertheless if you have a guy by the balls chances are he will get ready. Many times guys can be timid, this is true. My friend was like this. What got to him in the end was a Girl who was willing to take things in to her own hands, so to speak. She said just let me take care of it and once he was over that hump, he was saved. Be brave he will come around.
Peace
P.S. I think there is something very wrong if you are still a virgin at 22. If you have never had a thought about it or do anything to release sexual tension you need psychiatric help. It is not natural. If he wants to not have sex that's his choice but if he does not even engage in activity's by himself there is something wrong and he may need to talk with some one. This is a medical fact. He may have hormone problems or a dysfunction that needs attention.
In the end it is his business. Let him figure it out but be there for him.
2006-12-11 08:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by Fillup 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything is wrong with your friend. I'm 19 and a virgin and a number of my friends are too. He may just be waiting for the right person, or he could be nervous. Everyone assumes that guys can't be virgins or that something is wrong with them if they are and that's not true. Some of them may be a little bit more picky than other guys or like I said maybe he hasn't met someone he's comfortable with yet.
2006-12-11 08:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 27 year old virgin and there's nothing wrong with me. Aside from having been born and having had to learn to cope and deal with a developmental disability/medical condition, I simply am waiting to experience knowing there's at least one man who believes as I do that I'm worth knowing, that I'm worth loving and and that I'm worth waiting for. I'd like to avoid contracting any diseases/STDs, and I'd like to avoid getting pregnant with a baby I may not be able to care for, let alone carry to term. As it is, my condition/disability forces me to have to have help taking care of things I cannot all by myself.
If your friend has shown disinterest in hooking up with girls you've tried, his actions are nicely telling you to stop. If your friend's unwilling to hook up with girls you've tried hooking him up with, you need to respect this: he has a right to pass. You say he's acting scared, have you asked him why? Then again, his reasons may be personal to him, and it may not be appropriate of you to ask that he justify his decision, just to get you to understand why he made that decision.
Everything isn't for you to understand.
Maybe what he fears is protection not working, because no birth control, or condom is 100%. Abstinence is! Maybe he just doesn't want to worry about becoming a father, or maybe he just doesn't want any young lady clinging to him right now. I mean, some women are. It could be anything...not necessarily that he's gay.
Trust your friend to act as he feels he should. Don't assume there's a problem. Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, especially since we live in such a disease infested society.Think about it.
2006-12-11 10:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...What a shame you are trying to get this guy laid. Your post sounds as though he has a "problem" that needs to be fixed. He apparently has his reasons for not throwing his virginity away on some trashy tramp that you set him up with. Have you thought that maybe he wants to wait until he finds someone he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with? I doubt he is gay. Maybe there is a chance that he has feelings for you, so quit bombarding him with your silly notion of getting some! You better stop pushing this issue before he ditches your friendship.
2006-12-11 08:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just not out to have sex with everyone, what is wrong with someone who is a virgin. Why does that need to lead to them being gay. More people should wait till they find that person they are going to marry, we would have a lot less problems in the world.
2006-12-11 08:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by chris c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say he is necessarily gay. He may have the fear that due to his age he will be embarrassed with an experienced partner therefore he is not willing with them. It may be a different case scenerio if he experienced his first time with another virgin. When the time is right and the person is the right person he will come out of his shell.
2006-12-11 08:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be waiting to find the right person, and just because a girl is willing to have sex does not make her the right person. My brother is 27 and still a virgin. He is saving himself til marriage (which will be in about 6 months)
2006-12-11 08:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Firienscatha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't be judging someone who hasn't had sex yet at 22. For some reason, or society thinks there's something wrong with being a virgin into your 20s, but there isn't. Leave him alone.
2006-12-11 08:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have morals,self respect, be waiting for the right person,etc. Just cause the guy isn't puuting out doesn't mean he is gay. Not all people are into sleeping with whoever comes along. Why not just ASK HIM.
2006-12-11 08:42:32 · answer #11 · answered by tnkster71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋