I have been going out with my bf for two months now.. we've kissed and hold hands and did other stuff. but i have thought about having sex. but does anybody not have sex unitl their married anymore.
2006-12-11 08:37:22 · 24 answers · asked by bluemnky1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm saving sex till marriage.
This is how I feel about it ...
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin myself. I have a boyfriend of 10 months that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2006-12-11 08:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am 26 still single and I will never have sex before marriage!! There are so many reasons. First of all, God doesn't like it! Secondly, that is a part of me that I am saving for my husband!! And finally I don't want to get an STD (AIDS...) that I can die from because I had sex. Even if you do have a condom or other protection it isn't 100 percent safe. Also if you would happen to get pregant he either marries you because he has to and you get divorced later or he leaves you. I've seen it happen so many times...please don't let this part of yourself go...you are very precious in God's eyes and He loves you more than any man ever could!!
2006-12-11 08:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. It is more common than you think. The reason it doesn't seem that way is because of what the media portrays as "normal". Don't be a fool and conform to what everyone else seems to be doing. It is in your best interest to wait for sex until your wedding day. This is a serious topic. If you are not religious, than look at it from the standpoint of unwanted pregnancys and STD's. If you are smart (which I believe you are) you will wait until marriage becasue two months is not long enough to know your boyfriends intentions and his soul!
2006-12-11 09:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot legislate "morality" because there are sooo many different ideas and beliefs about what IS moral and what is not. This particular issue is a highly personal one, and two consenting adults also have the absolute right to have whatever personal relationship they want to by mutual consent.
Whatever you feel right and comfortable with is your personal business. I would only mention that you need to think very long and hard about the consequences of getting pregnant, especially if you happen to be quite young still. Those glossy magazines are always featuring pictures of celebrities like Tom Cruise and his wife, parading around with big smiles and their cute little baby. Not to mention other celebrities who do the same thing without being married. A lot of women try to copy what celebrities do, and don't have the sense to realise that the result for them is going to be waaaaaay different.
I think each person has to decide this matter of sex for him, and herself, and let's keep the "Morality Police" out of our bedrooms.
2006-12-11 09:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Statistically speaking, around 49% of girls wait until they are married. That may sound way high -- but it's only because TV, music videos and the Hollywood sluts make us think that everyone is doing it. Everyone is NOT doing it.
Waiting to have sex until marriage is the ONLY way you can be sure of not getting an STD. It's also the only way to be 100% sure you don't get pregnant. More than 70% of the girls who had sex before marriage regretted it. THINK IT OVER!
BTW, "having sex" includes oral sex.
2006-12-11 08:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Charlie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course people are waiting to have sex until they are married. My husband did. They just aren't bragging about it, because usually they are modest people. There is nothing more unattractive than a braggart.
Still a lot of people don't wait. I didn't. It's just a personal choice. If you look at the OLD marriage and birth record dates they didn't wait then either.
If waiting is right for you, stand your ground and do not flex your ideals. It's your health, it's your body, it's your responsibility.
2006-12-11 09:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys out there who will still respect that! and there are plenty of people who still believe that, although they may be hard to find since people dont usually walk around announcing it. My friend (who is in his 20s) went out with his girlfriend for 3 years and all they did was kiss. Thats it and nothing more. He wasnt a virgin before he met her but says he really cared about her and respected her and was more than willing to abide by that. So dont worry! Hold on to ur beliefs!
2006-12-11 08:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i still believe in NOT having sex before marriage. think of this quote/story. "a group of friends were standing around talking about their boyfriends and not being virgins. when one of the girls said "my boyfriend and i haven't had sex." all the other girls just stared at her. then she said " see. that is the one gift you can never get back. once that is given, you will never have that amazing bond with you husband. most importantly, i can be like you but you can NEVER be like me." i hope this story helps you make you decision. but i would wait till i was married.
2006-12-11 08:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have an 19 and 16 year old that have chosen to be celibate til they are married. Although the Bible and God has a lot to do with it. It has to be a moral choice to what decision you make.
2006-12-11 08:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by lpdecca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly want to enjoy sex .. then plz, just postpone it till after marriage,,, and i assure you with all my heart that,, this sex will give you an eternal satisfaction... But right now,, no matter what pleasures you may get from sex,,, but you will never get any satisfaction... A feeling of guilt eill always be there in your heart no matter how small.
2006-12-11 08:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Sam 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋