2006-12-11 08:35:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her how concerned you are about her. If she does it again, you should ask your parents for advice on what to do. She needs help and if you care about her, you'll make sure she gets it.
2006-12-11 08:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be there for her. As much as she needs help, until she is sure she has the support of those close to her there is not much you can do. Throwing her in the deep end will make her insecure and as much as it might help in the long run, what your friend needs is a chat and the knowledge that you are always there to talk to her whenever she needs to talk, not a lecture from her parents or such like.
Tell her that if she ever feels like selfharming again that she must call you and talk to you for 15 minutes. Probe her with questions about why shes upset but do not pressure her. Other suggestions as alternatives for her self harming come in the form of taking a cold shower, and holding ice cubes to the skin.
Your support is the key to getting her through this and as long as youre there she will always have something else to turn to.
Good Luck.
2006-12-11 16:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell someone, because it wouldn't be betraying her because you would help her. Even if she tells you not to tell someone in the long run she would be happy that you told someone because by slitting her wrists she is hurting herself, and you don't want your friend to do that.
2006-12-11 16:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anna H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to betray her than you need to get her the help she needs. Tell her parents about it or someone that can help her before she really hurts herself. Could you live with yourself if she ended up killing herself and all you had to do was speak up? Trust me, when a person you could have helped kills themselves it never stops haunting you, ever.
2006-12-11 16:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok if you think you can help her on your own...go for it. one thing you could do is take all the things she uses to cut when she isnt looking. also, if she uses long sleved shirts to cover her arms take her shirts and say you were borrowing them or that u lent them to a friend and they havent given them back so that u technically arnt telling on her. you should tlel her the importance in life and how much damage (not good) she is doing to herself. If you don think you can do it on your own ask/tell a guidence counsler at school. The counsler can call your parents and let them kno that sum1 told him taht and he cant tell any one that you told him if u tell him not to. So, i hope these tips help you. Best of luck!!
2006-12-11 16:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she betrayed you when she tried to kill herself--imagine the guilt you'd have if it had worked, huh?
Tell her parents. Tell a teacher, or the school counselor. Yep, that's what I'd do, go talk to the counselor or social worker at school and let THAT PERSON tell her parents!
2006-12-11 16:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats tough i think ur going to have to tell some one u can tell an adult u trust or u could find one of those annoymus phone numbers and they will tell u how u can help her she needs help u wouldnt be betraying her u would be helping her shell be thankful maybe not yet but she will
2006-12-11 17:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by donielle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't anyone seen the marks on her wrists? I am sure she hasn't slit her wrist or she would have bled to death. she is probably a "cutter" who mutilates herself. You need to tell her parents or someone who is her guardian about her behavior. If she truely is your friend you need to look out for her.
2006-12-11 16:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by ting_tang21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lola pretty soon(knock on wood)you wont have a friend,cuase she is gonna kill herself....If she dosent get help quick...She will be pissed at you at first but you need to make someone aware....think of it this way, how would you feel if she died and you were the only one that could have saved her life cause you knew the secret?? Help your friend...Good luck!!
2006-12-11 16:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Simple1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u HAVE to tell someone, this is a serious matter. don't treat her any more different than anyone else, or she will cut herself even more. treat her as if u never knew. get her some counseling, she obviously needs help. because people only cut themself when something or somebody is troubling them
good luck
2006-12-11 17:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by name. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋