my best friend's dad just passed away in Mexico from a heart attack.
what should I say to her? Please help me... I dont know what to say...
2006-12-11 08:29:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her you are sorry to hear that her dad died. Let her know you are there for her for and will support her in any and all ways that you can. Tell her she can call you anytime for anything.
2006-12-11 08:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people in situations like that hate pity, especially when they're still grieving. Don't say "I'm so sorry" and stuff like that, because it will just make her think of how much she misses him. Be sensitive to her feelings and try to imagine what you would feel like. Would you want people fawning all over you, making you feel worse, or would you want just quiet, simple support?
Sometimes the best thing to do is say nothing at all. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't do anything- but sometimes actions speak louder than words. Maybe just show up at her house with a stack of DVDs, comfort food, and a huge hug. If she has siblings, offer to babysit for a night so that she can have some quiet time, or take her somewhere quiet to get out of the house. Sometimes people that have just gone through a loss like that just want their lives to be normal again.
You don't have to be happy and cheerful just to make her feel better. Let her sort out her emotions while still supporting her, but DO NOT smother her.
The best thing to do would be to go and see her, and try to get a sense of what she is feeling from there. I'm sure that once you see her, it will all come naturally.
2006-12-11 08:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by NJ Darlin' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her how very sorry you are and that you just don't have the words to tell her how sad you feel for her. Ask her if there is anything you can do for her - sometimes a person will just want to be left alone when they've lost a family member and sometimes they want to talk about that person and how they are feeling. And if she cries you will probably cry with her - and that's OK. It helps. Above all else, let her know that you are there for her - do not ignore her loss because you don't know what to say. That would be unforgivable.
2006-12-11 08:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so i was in a similar situation. Just tell her how sorry you are and how bad you feel for what she's going through. tell her that you want to be there for her and that if she needs a shoulder to cry on that you will always be there whenever anytime of the day anytime of the night all she has to do is call. tell her that time heals all wounds and that things will get better. Tell her you cant imagine the pain she's going through and that if you could trade her places you would but you can only be there for her. I'm so sorry about what happend to your friend i wish i could help more.
2006-12-11 08:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything about ur dad, or anything he said or did, it will make her feel even worse. just say im sorry for ur lose. comfort her, give her a hug, have a gathering with her true friends. that would make her feel better. i would know thats wat my friends did for me when my dad passed away. and after hanging out with my friends and them comforting me i starting to slowly get over it. but i am still a little sad, because christmas or any other day wont be the same.
2006-12-11 09:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by name. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you're really sorry and let her know that you're there for her if she ever needs you for ANYTHING. Day or night. Tell her not to hesitate to call. It will make her feel better knowing she has someone to turn to and that she doesnt have to go through the pain alone.
2006-12-11 08:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're sorry for her loss that he is now going through another stage in life. Where her father is much happier and more free.
2006-12-11 08:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Raine Ssshhh... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes saying is better than nothing at all . Just offer her your loveand support and your shoulder to cry on.Be her friend.
2006-12-11 08:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "I'm really sorry" but act natural and don't pester her about it. Also, if she crys, cry with her or atleast comfort her.
Very sorry for her loss.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 08:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by [A] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to mexico get a bottel of ticila bring it to the funeral drink half put the othert half in the casket cause u no thats why he was in mexico in first place
by her boyfriend
2006-12-11 08:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋