now what do i do???

Question

so i asked the love of my life for her hand in marriage, & its been two + weeks with no answer from her. the way i see it, that means no. so do i break it off from her all together, or wait & hope i get some kind of answer out of her after she's done with school this week? i am stuck b/c i do love her & want her, plus she was the one dropping hints the last two months about marriage, how cute our kids would be, coming home to me and falling asleep in my arms everynight etc. so of course my head is spinning out of control!! the bottom line is simple, i want to spend the rest of my life with her, but if she doesn't want to marry me, what are the chances to where she will later on down the road? do i take that risk, or count my losses & move forward to bigger and better things. most woman have told me no matter what was on their mind, they would have said yes in two seconds, & not 2 wks. if they knew that their mate was the one they wanted to marry. i think im screwed which = a brk heart

Answer 1

Waaaaiiiit a minute... I'm looking at your other questions. I'm seeing that you've come out of a long relationship and you've still got some weirdness going on with the ex-girlfriend. The "love of your life" you have only been dating since last spring and when you started dating her she was engaged to someone else??? That's a whole lot of confusion. No wonder she doesn't know what to say to you! I suggest that you tell her you have realized it was too soon to pop the question and you should spend more time getting to now each other. Take a BIG step back and give BOTH of you time to settle down and get to know your selves and each other.

Answer 2

I don't know you or her, but if you really love her and you think she loves you, just wait; or you could bring it up again. She might just not be ready for that kind of commitment...if she's still in school (college or highschool?) she may want to wait until she's finished before she ties the knot. And maybe she is afraid to say it because she doesn't want to hurt you.
Has the relationship otherwise been normal? I mean, are you still seeing each other and just not talking about the question; or is it that you haven't even talked to her in two weeks? If she hasn't spoken to you at all in two weeks, it might not be good, but not necessarily so.
Either way, I wouldn't just break up with her. Wait until she's ready to discuss it; OR it would probably be better for you to simply ask her why she hasn't answered you...don't be mean about it...if you two are truly in love, it shouldn't be too difficult to talk to her.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Maybe now that she is faced with a real decision, she could be scared. I've gone down that road myself and loved talking about getting married, etc. but when he proposed I accepted the ring (didn't know what else to do after I had opened my big mouth so much) but later I picked a good moment to give it back....less hurtful. Don't rush things, let her finish her classes, and cool it for awhile if you really want her.

Answer 4

yeah i agree with the answer above mine. two weeks is too long, just ask her. tell her you need an answer now, you aren't going to wait forever. and you aren't, because that is not fair to you. it could be something simple like she's scared and has to think about it, but you will never know until you ask, and she obviously intends to keep you hanging. don't play that game.

Answer 5

Ask her - flat out - what her answer is. Tell her you need to know.
An "I don't know" is essentially a no. Then you can either ride it out longer or end it and look for someone else.