What do I do? Im too young?

Question

Im 15 and I think im pregnant. I will find out when i take the test this week. (parents dont know) Im scared about the results becuase i dont know what i would do with the baby I would either keep it or give it up for adoption. Im not a selfish person so naturally i want to keep my baby but im to young and im thinking maybe the baby would be better off with someone else who is responsible. Any opinions on what i should do in this situation?

Answer 1

u should keep the baby because u will be a good mother believe me

Answer 2

Well, at least you are thinking with your head. You can give the baby a good life. There will always someone out there that can do better than you, always someone with more money or something. I was in your shoes, I was 15 the first time I got pregnant and was super scared. I knew I was gonna keep the baby, but was scared of what people would say, or what my mom would say. I ended up loosing my baby to a miscarriage, and blame myslef. All you can do is take very good care of yourself and dont cry alot like I did. If you want to keep your baby, there are programs out there to help you learn what you need to know and help with clothes and diapers. People will call you to young and stupid, but dont let it get to you. If you are pregnant, you can do this and make it through this. If your not, I would suggest birth control pills and condoms to prevent pregnancys and STD's. Best of luck to you hunny and remember, you can do anything you set your heart too.

Answer 3

Absolutely you are not being selfish if you give the baby up for adoption. In the USA there are many good parents waiting to adopt, and adoption is open so you get to choose and you get to keep in touch, and your baby will know that you really cared.
I think the most unselfish thing you could do would be to give your baby the best possible chance in life, and even the world's best 15 year old mother isn't it, even if you and your boyfriend get married and live happily ever after you still aren't it because you just won't have the experience and resources a baby needs.
My mother gave birth at 15 and married my dad, and it was never a good situation.
I hope you will seriously consider adoption for your child.
Here are some sites to help:
http://www.childwelfare.gov/
http://www.crisispregnancy.com/birth-mother/where-do-i-start-2.html
http://www.parentprofiles.com/
Good luck~
C-R

Answer 4

The key is you think that you are pregnant, cross that bridge when you get to it. Meanwhile if it turns out that you are, yes my dear you'll have to face the music and tell mom and dad. If need be rope in a relative as a mediator, you know to be there for support.
I am saying you should tell your parents incase you are so that they know they can trust you and they're feelings won't be hurt. After all parents are human. I am assuming of course your parents are topknotch, not as good as some, but better than most.
Meanwhile don't worry until you get the results.
You would be selfish if you kept the baby and could not care for it properly; there are always two sides to a coin.
Good luck.

Answer 5

I don't know what your relatioinship with your parents is. Are you scared of what your parents will do or say? or are you scared of what is going to happen to you physically and mentally? I can't imagine parents being happy about this although in this day and age it's possible. You need to think seriously about adoption if you are pregnant unless you want to kill the baby, and it is a baby caused by sexual activity. I am sorry for you and the baby. if you are pregnant. What tension is caused by a moment of gratification. The baby has no say in your decision at the moment.
Speaking as a prior embryo, as Laura Ingraham would say, If you do not wish to keep the child, please consider adoption. You are going to go through an amazing experience. Let a couple that does not have the chance to have a child take care of yours. There are couples out there that will handle your medical bills, but you have to look for them carefully. You can have the choice of who you want to take of your child. I can think of no better place than to find yourself a bible based church and start there. As one other answer said, you have niine months. I pray you are not pregnant and if your not, please think about the possible circumstances that will occurr when you have sex with anyone other than your husband in the future! You are not immune to pregnance after the first one!

Answer 6

don't stress out until you get the results, but it is a good idea to think of possible situations in case something like this ever did happen. Are you parents aware that you are having sex? if so i would talk to them about it. ask them if you were to have a child if they would be there to support you. if you dont end up being pregnant consider getting better contraceptives so you dont have to worry about it next time. When i was 15 i went to planned parenthood ad got birth control for free! they are really nice there and made me feel really comfortable. They aren't even allowed to tell your parents if that's what your worried about. well good luck with everything and no matter what happens tell someone immediately so you an start planning.

Answer 7

This is something you need to discuss with your parents and decide together. You are way too young to take on the responsibility of a baby but it's a little late to worry about that now. If you're really lucky you won't be pregnant and it will just be some hormonal thing - in which case I would hope you've learned something.

Answer 8

well heres the thing i think i might be pregnant to and im only 14 so if u say ur too young then y did u have unprotected sex in the first place and y r u even having sex also when it comes to ur parents if u r pregnant they find out one way or another u may think that they well hate u but deep down its the right thing to do another thing if u r pregnant make sure that if u keep it that ur bf or who ever buckles down in helps u cuz its going to be very tough to take care of it with out help and if u give it up for adoption u shouldnt feel guilty because at least it well have a family that can take care of its needs and plus u shouldnt be going out and having sex u should be at home and studying your notes or doing your homework all i can say is that i hope u arent pregnant and if u have any questions u can e-mail me at [e-mail] and i just wish the best of luck to you

Answer 9

I am really happy to hear that you would have the baby first of all. Most kids your age faced with this decision choose to have an abortion. Which I dont agree with. Keeping the baby would be my first choice. You must take responsiblity for you actions. My next choice would be to give the baby to a loving family. If you dont think that you are ready to have a child then look into some adoption agencys. They will help you make the right choice. If you are pregnat let your parents know. Good luck and take care!

Answer 10

Well it is totally up to you! BUT there is pro's and con's about both situations! So honestly i would write a list and see what it comes out to be! i got prego at 16 and had my baby at 17 kept her and am happier than ever! BUT on the other hand my friend was also pregnant and she gave hers up. I dont know if she regrets it or not! BUT if you have someone there for you it may be able to work but doing on your own would be awefully hard! So it is totally up to you and i would really write the Pro's n Con's down that will help and then tell your parents! They will find out sooner or later..mise well be now! Good Luck

Answer 11

I had my first child at 15....it wasn't easy but I gave her up for adoption to finish school. It is an open adoption so I am able to see her. If in fact you are preg there are many options out there. I hope that you won't choose abortion, I don't personally beleive in it obviously. You will need to have a game plan when it comes to telling your parents. They are going to be diappointed and they may yell and or they may not. But whatever the initial reaction is they are going to be supportive especially if you come to them with a game plan when you tell them. They will respect you more for taking the time to think it all way through. If you choose to accept the responsibility of your baby you need to finish school and make something of your self because you will need to set a good example and give him or her some one to look up to! If your not preg I would suggest since you are sexually active to get bc to avoid this type of situation!!Good luck.