ok i have managed to save up about $30 bucks in spare change and change from store runs without my fiancee noticing. I am not working and have no money.What can i do for him with that money for the holidays.He is the greatest guy and has sacrificed so much. I know i should have started saving along time ago but i have 3 kidz and it is hard to do that. I feel like it is sneaky cause it is his change and money?Is this wrong. I need suggestions.
2006-12-11 08:09:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Technically it's not sneaky because you are giving it back to him just not in cash form. Besides you are engaged. When you are married you would share the money anyway. This is just practice. (I say this from experience. When we were engaged my then fiance worked while I was unemployed for a while.)
As far as a nice Christmas present. Find a place to put the kids for a night (preferably free) and have a private Christmas party. Just you and your fiance. Use the money to do it up right. This would be my shopping list.
Use what is already in the house to cook a nice dinner. If you have to use a bit of cash to buy some good chicken breasts. Here's a recipe for cheap and tasty.
In a skillet pour about half a cup to 3/4 cup of oil - any oil will do. It should fill the skillet a little less then half way. Put a about a tablespoon each of various spices into the oil before you turn on the heat. I use rosemary, oregano, salt, pepper, garlic, and some crushed bay leaf. Heat the oil for about ten minutes. Be sure to watch it. We don't want any holiday fires. While it is heating, cut thawed, raw chicken breasts into some nice sized strips, you can cube it too. When the oil is hot place the chicken in the oil and spice mix. The flavors have gotten into the oil and shallow frying the chicken really keeps it moist and lets those flavors in. Serve over cooked spaghetti and the sauce of your choice. Traditional red sauce is good but I prefer alfredo (I use the stuff out of the jars) - Anywhere from free to about $12.00
Holiday Ice Cream - pint - $4.00
Eggnog - non alcholic - $1.50
After dinner and desert load up the egg nog in some car friendly cups and go see christmas lights around town. - Free
After you've had your fill of Christmas lights settle down and cuddle in front of an old school Christmas classic like Miracle on 34th street or What a wonderful life - $5.00 for the movie rental.
Altogether that makes for a great night that you can top off with other free activities... =D and you will have spent about $23.00. Good luck and merry Christmas!
2006-12-11 08:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is really a big deal that you kept the change, if he would have been worried about it he would have asked you for it at the time. You would be surprised what you can do with $30 bucks. Watch the sales, you can buy clothing, tools, gift certificates for favorite restaurants, passes for movies, a bottle of his favorite liquor if he drinks, lots of things. I assume that you are not working because you have 3 kids, so I would suggest maybe taking on a babysitting job or two to bring in some extra money. That way, next year you won't be in the same dilema.
2006-12-11 08:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I wouldn't call it sneaky. Although if it meant that a bill didn't get paid that could have been, you should have coughed it up.
Look at my answer for the woman who want to do something special for an anniversary (What can I do?). That is less than $15 and you can do it over and over. I would never get tired of it. Wrap up the items and haul him upstairs.
Just to be clear - if you are just dirt poor struggling to get by that's one thing - if he is just a psycho controlling money that's another. If it's the 2nd one you have some issues.
p.s. babe most of us including me have been there - don't feel bad - we've all been young and broke and scrounging change for toilet paper.
2006-12-11 08:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy him something from the heart. when he ask where you got the money be honest. tell him you saved up spare change in order to make sure you could get him a gift. if he's a good man like you say you should give you a kiss, hug and maybe a fourth child. try honesty it usually works out better. have fun.
2006-12-11 08:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lab 7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you're married, it's all shared money anyway, so I don't see anything wrong with it.
But some of the best gifts you can get him don't cost anything at all. Make him a home cooked meal to come home to after dinner, then give him a backrub in the bath, and tuck him into bed and... well, I think you can fill in the rest.
2006-12-11 08:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's sneaky because it's just pocket change.
My boyfriend usually puts his change in a jar on my headboard.
But if you don't have a job, he's going to wonder how you came up with the money to give him the gift.
So be prepared to explain, I guess.
2006-12-11 08:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i do believe once you tell him how you got the gift for him, he won't be upset. it is hard being the one not working in a relationhip because you want to do nice things for your spouse, but you can't. it sucks to ask them for the money because then they'll be asking for what, and why. I suggest get him something trivial that he has been asking about. $30 may not seem like a lot, but you can get him slippers, boxers, handkerchiefs, or something like that. good luck
2006-12-11 08:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by sofiedriskell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to bust your happy bubble, but by having 3 children, can't you find a man who has more money or go out and get a job and depend on yourself?
Sence it's his money, I'd try and get him anything that falls in the area of his likes and dislikes! Hobbies? Collector of anything?
Too bad you couldn't buy him a good paying job.
2006-12-11 08:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, but it sure sounds like your heart is in the right place. My suggestion would be to make the main part of the gift something you either do for him, or something you make for him, or write him a poem or something like that and then spend the money on something from his favorite store.
2006-12-11 08:12:30 · answer #9 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong. Once you marry HIS money becomes YOUR money.
Question, is he that stingy not to help you out, you have 3 kids and no job, do you think he really wouldnt let you keep it? If so, maybe you should re-think the marriage thing.
Im a newley married mom of 4, with no job, my hubby foots all the bills willingly.
2006-12-11 08:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋